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When I was 9 years old, all I wanted to be when I grew up was a mom. It's what I was taught to be, and more importantly, its what I was supposed to be.
Today my 9 year old daughter was watching 'Friends,' the episode where Rachael had her baby. My daughter started to ask me a question, which started out "if I choose to have kids..."
Yes! She HAS a choice. Just because she has all the right parts physically, does not mean she HAS to have kids. She gets it. My 9 year old realizes she can choose.
We stopped going to church when this daughter was 3. It's been one hell of a transition for me as a parent to figure out how to let go of the indoctrination I was raised with- and then to muddle through a new way of thinking while raising 4 young kids. My daughters words we're a glimmer of hope for me today- she has none of the Mormon mind set I had at that age.
Happy Friday night:)
Today my 9 year old daughter was watching 'Friends,' the episode where Rachael had her baby. My daughter started to ask me a question, which started out "if I choose to have kids..."
Yes! She HAS a choice. Just because she has all the right parts physically, does not mean she HAS to have kids. She gets it. My 9 year old realizes she can choose.
We stopped going to church when this daughter was 3. It's been one hell of a transition for me as a parent to figure out how to let go of the indoctrination I was raised with- and then to muddle through a new way of thinking while raising 4 young kids. My daughters words we're a glimmer of hope for me today- she has none of the Mormon mind set I had at that age.
Happy Friday night:)
This is probably going to stay with you as a very positive memory from her childhood. Congrats!
She sounds like a winner for sure. :)
Also, being able to say I'm a woman who can stand on my own two feet, is a worthy goal we weren't taught growing up in the church.
If she's that smart now, she'll make the connection that she can be whoever she wants to be.
We were so groomed to be wives and mothers it's taken a lifetime to unlearn that we're okay just as we are, with or without a husband or children to define and affirm us.
That's what the church finds so threatening about feminism. It takes away from the male hierarchy of the church to dominate and control us.
Once we own our power, we find we aren't giving it back. :)
Also, being able to say I'm a woman who can stand on my own two feet, is a worthy goal we weren't taught growing up in the church.
If she's that smart now, she'll make the connection that she can be whoever she wants to be.
We were so groomed to be wives and mothers it's taken a lifetime to unlearn that we're okay just as we are, with or without a husband or children to define and affirm us.
That's what the church finds so threatening about feminism. It takes away from the male hierarchy of the church to dominate and control us.
Once we own our power, we find we aren't giving it back. :)