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caffiend
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Date: October 20, 2015 06:33PM
She posts, "Contact the city, county, state... You would be better off anywhere else. Explain they are taking your money for a cult... and you are living in unhealthy squalor."
Yes, call an appropriate government authority (probably municipal or county) is the right thing to do, but complaining about your in-law's religious beliefs and practices will backfire. You need to call Inspectional Services, the Board of Health, the Fire Department, and (possibly) other agencies. The dwelling is a health, hygiene, and fire hazard and an intervention appears to be necessary.
Some steps to consider:
1) Start taking pictures of the place.
2) Keep a journal of problem issues, episodes, experiences. Reconstruct the history as best you can.
3) Itemize specific, exigent problems: bad wiring, excessive use of outlets, food left out, pet feces, yard hazards (which visitors and children might be exposed to). Take pictures of them.
4) Educate yourself about alternate living arrangements. Check with social services, shelters, relocation services. There are government services, the Salvation Army, others who can point you in the right direction. You may be eligible for the short list on public housing or help from the Red Cross, Veterans or Elder services etc. You won't know till you start asking around. You have a steep learning curve ahead--GET CRACKING!
4-A) If anybody says "we don't help people of your category" or "We don't do that" (etc.) your next question is, "Who does?"
5) When you know your options, call the appropriate agencies and authorities for an inspection. Be ready to pack fast and vacate. If the house is bad, immediate vacating may be necessary.
5-A) This includes the landlord or management folks if they rent. Find out if there is a neighborhood organization which would be concerned about a problem property.
6) Expect a trainload of cr*p from lots of people who only know them as well-dressed church folk.
7) Be ready to help your in-laws to get professional help. Horders resist treatment. They need loving encouragement to get counseling, which may involve medication, and lengthy follow-up to stay with, and perhaps modify, their regimen.
Edited by caffiend to add 4-A and 5-A.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 10/20/2015 06:37PM by caffiend.