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Finally Free!
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Date: October 23, 2015 11:52AM
I appreciate that everyone has their own path out of the church and many do choose not to resign for similar reasons which you state.
I personally feel that it's a flawed argument, for several reasons:
- It's like telling an abused spouse that they shouldn't divorce their abuser because it "legitimizes their authority over them". No, it doesn't it sends a clear message that the relationship is over. To me, resigning is the same thing. I told the abuser that I no longer wanted anything to do with them. It empowers the abused with the ability to say "I'm done with you."
- I often (but not always) stops unwanted contact. Maybe that's not an issue for you and for me it wasn't for a long time, then suddenly after years of not hearing from anyone, we were suddenly assigned home teachers, visiting teachers and had several visits from the missionaries, from a ward that we had never attended nor knew anyone from, we did not transfer our records there and had no intention of doing so. It may not be a problem for you now, but it can happen at any time to anyone.
- As others have pointed out resigning is a legal procedure, not a religious one. There is no special prayer, no special ordinance that the church does when someone resigns. They simply sign the paper (this really makes you wonder about the importance of the showy baptisms and the temple! If it can all be undone with a signature, how "special" was it in the first place?)
- The legal procedure was fought for and won in court, not by the church, the church has to hate that they must provide a means of leaving the church that does not include excommunication. The rough outline that lead to the legal trial was that someone wanted to leave the church, the church said "Fine, we'll setup a court of love and excommunicate you" he said, no, that assumes I've don't something wrong and is slander (or something similar), so he sued them and won. To me, every resignation sends a message to the church that they they had to listen to a power greater than them, it's membership and the laws that protect them.
- For many people resigning provides an important opportunity to send a message to the church, listing their grievances with open abandon. It can provide closure. Sure the church is going to ignore it (in most cases) but can be very cathartic to write that letter and send it to them.