Date: November 01, 2015 01:14AM
So, when TBM family members (immediate meaning siblings or parents) have a Mormon wedding, they already know the exno can't attend. Sometimes they issue a wedding announcement/invitation, and add a note saying "WE'd love you to come to the reception" (consolation prize).
I've read here that many expect their Exmo family to still come and wait outside the temple to pose in pictures - but they are not allowed inside God's holy house, or so they claim it is.
I've wondered about a civil way to respond. In my family's case, there is a wedding coming up, and they are issuing an email to all family (including the exmos) saying they want to arrange for a reunion the same week, with a copy of the reception invitation. The assumption is that the exmo family members would still want to participate, despite not being "worthy" to attend the wedding itself.
Now don't get me wrong, last thing I want to do is set foot inside a Mormon temple. But it feels very odd to even consider going to the reception.
So just wondering - have others here ever considered making a statement that somehow gets through to them that it's impolite to invite family to the reception but not the wedding (even though of course it isn't their decision, the Mormon hierarchy has deemed this to be the case). Yes I know, some here probbly still go to the Recepitions and still send a gift etc. That's not what I'm referring to, as those are always options by civilized folks.
I'm trying to think of a simple, straight to the point statement that would allow them to see the ludicrousness of their "family friendly... families are forever" church but without being sarcastic or nasty. It's truthfully insulting of Mormons. Can you imagine if the tables were turned, and other faiths said: "You are not allowed to come to our wedding, but we'd sure love to see ya at the Reception!" If the shoe were on the other foot, can you picture them sending gifts to newly married family members to whose wedding they were not allowed to attend?