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Date: December 03, 2015 06:21PM
Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of advice. But maybe some information might provide some context for what your friend is going through.
The point of a mission, is not, as they profess, to teach people to baptize and make new members, that's a side goal and if they do that, great. Many missionaries go though their entire missions without baptizing any more than one or two people, some baptize no people at all. Don't get me wrong, there's a lot of pressure to teach and baptize, but that's all part of the plan, to keep them in control.
The real goal of a mission is keep young men and women in the church. To make life long tithe payers. They take them as young as they can, while they are still impressionable and malleable. They take away their support group, only allowing written letters and two phone calls a year. They make them totally reliant on the church for everything then surround them with nothing but gospel, doctrine, and church. Even their "day off" (P-Day) is extremely limited.
If he's done anything to make him "unworthy" before his mission it can cause extreme depression and can make things very difficult for him.
Coming home, even for an illness or injury can cause a great deal of embarrassment (if they even send him home, they may keep him there or send him to a state-side mission, or even a phone mission)
None of this is easy. Stories like this break my heart.
Be his friend as best you can. Please don't encourage him to hurt himself, that can cause all kinds of trouble. If he can keep his head down, even see some of the positives (I'm assuming he's in a foreign country, if so, go see the sites while he can, I saw all kinds of things in Korea). Two years is difficult, but it can be done. If he can't do it, he can ask to come home, it would be embarrassing and very difficult to do, but that too can be survived and moved beyond.
Be supportive and be a good ear, that may be the best thing for him right now.