Posted by:
engagedExmo
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Date: December 10, 2015 12:13PM
I am the youngest of eight. One of my older brothers left the Church four years ago, and I resigned a couple of years ago. Everyone else in the family is very much still TBM.
I’m getting married later this month. My fiancé is also an exmo; we both left the Church before we met each other. All of her family is still active in the Church.
Among our family members, we’ve had varying degrees of acceptance. I’ve actually become closest to my exmo brother over the past couple of years. He’s my oldest brother and had left the home when I was very young, so we weren’t as close before, but now that we’re the only two black sheep of the family, we’ve become quite close.
We live in Utah, though we’re moving to New York City early next year, mostly to get away from the Utah culture. We decided to send the following email invitation to our family members for our wedding.
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Dear Family,
As you know, we’ve set the date of December 19 for our wedding. [Fiancé] and I are excited, and the wedding plans are coming together. The wedding will take place at [venue] at 1 pm. The ceremony will be open to all those without current temple recommends. For the rest of you, we’ve set up a waiting room just off of the lobby in the [venue] where you can wait during the ceremony. Of course, everyone is invited to the reception after the ceremony.
We look forward to seeing everyone!
Love,
engagedExmo
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OK, we didn’t actually send that email. We briefly considered sending something like it as a joke, but decided things are already a bit tense, and we didn’t want to make it worse. Our parents are both quite disappointed that we’re not getting married in the temple, though they’re trying their best to show support and acceptance. I imagine the wedding will be awkward. Alcohol will be served, and my fiancé’s dress is not up to temple standards. It’s unfortunate that on one of the most special days of our lives, we’ll have to deal with the awkwardness and disappointment, but such is the life of an exmo in a family full of TBMs.