Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: January 31, 2016 07:55PM
Everyone is correct. I have the same motto concerning Mormons as jiminycricket has: "The less they know, the less ammunition they will have to use against you."
Yes, it is malevolent.
If they find out you make a lot of money, they try to make you donate more, and criticize you for putting career ahead of the church, etc.
If they find out you are living with your mother, they will nit-pick about stupid things like cooking or going to a singles ward. Instead they should compliment you for having such a good relationship with your mother, that you can live together. You seem to have some good routines that work for you both--and that busybody was trying to stir things up!
I think that most nosy critics don't really like themselves. They probably criticize themselves and are criticized by their Mormon spouses and Mormon friends, and they are just passing it along to you. The Mormons and the cult made me feel like I was a failure--because I was divorced. After I left, a therapist helped me realize that I'm actually very successful. I was happy being single, and never wanted to try marriage again. My children are happy, too, and have done well in life.
What I'm saying, is that jealousy has a lot do to with back-handed insults like that woman threw at you. Maybe her children don't speak to her, or live far away, and she's jealous of your mother's good relationship with you. Maybe you are doing something better with your life than wasting it on a mission, and they might be jealous of that. Maybe you are good looking. People choose the most stupid things to be jealous of. When I got divorced, my TBM SIL confessed to me that she was always jealous of me--WHY? She said she envied my musical ability, and that I was thin. That makes no sense. She was wealthy and popular and was RS president, etc.
If you aren't a jealous person yourself, you may have a hard time understanding this. Are you happy? Physically fit? Maybe this woman's son isn't as popular as you are--it could be anything that set her off.
Or, it could be nothing. It could be all about her, needing to lift herself up by putting someone else down, and you happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.
So--I gave up wondering why. Yes, there are a lot of rude people in the rude Mormon religion. So, decide how you're going to respond, so next time, you will know what to say? For example, you could have asked "Why is our cooking schedule so fascinating to you?" or "Why are you asking me this question." or, just smile and ignore the comments, and say, "We're doing great! How are you doing?"
Ya gotta have a thick skin, when you deal with Mormons.