Posted by:
pollythinks
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Date: March 20, 2016 06:23PM
Go for it. Politely and lovingly, or more forcefully if you must, but don't let abuse of what is perceived of as power by some (the priesthood title), ruin your marriage and life. Speak up and defend yourself.
As aposenai ( ) rightly observed, "perhaps a lot of men...abuse their "patriarchal power."
Me: WHAT "patriarchal power"? Some seem to think it is with God's approval and permission that men misuse the "power" they seem to think of as theirs, as they wish (such as abusing their wive and family). Nonsense.
Even so, in Mormonism, some perverted church leaders and doctrine may make it appear that men who "hold" the priesthood are God's "favored" gender, and as such, feel they are "inspired", and as such, have a right to act almost as they please towards their wife and family. Not so.
Indeed, teaching this perverted concept and doctrine (let alone acting on it)--and of all things in the name of God--is (IMO) a damnable outrage in itself.
A story reg. the women's role in the overbalance of authority between men and women in the church: I vividly remember an instance in our stake where the "priesthood" circled their support around a high-priesthood "brother" to support his "right" not to pay his ex-wife (and their two half-grown sons) support and alimony. This they did on the basis that SHE had decided to divorce him (and ignoring civic law, and the fact that he was a real jerk).
Along this line, the church has tried different versions of how to circumvent the wisdom of sharing of affairs in a marriage (albeit, so that the man always retains the "right" of leadership over women).
For instance, the church teaches members--even in the temple--that the wife is to "Bow her head, and say 'Yes'" (in agreement with the proposition that the male be the primary
"partner" over the two genders). As presented by the church, no choice in the matter is given the females.
The teachings of the church also make it clear that the wife is to consider her husband as superior to him in virtually all ways. It even has the audacity to claim that "this is due to God's demand", not mans, due to only males being allowed to "hold" the "priesthood".
In other words, the church chooses to hide behind "God" as being responsible for any inequity's this system may cause, for a doctrine created and put into practice by men. (What an outrageous liberty to "blame" God!).
IMO, if inequities exist between men and women, these are not due to God's orders or will, but (of course) due to men. Indeed, the fact of God being God reinforces that He is--and must be--just in all things.
(Remember, even the "prophet" J.Smith taught that the power of the pd can only function so long as it is used in righteousness.)
This leads to my opinion that if a man physically abuses his wife or children, she should call the police---NOT the church.
And, if a husband speaks or acts disrespectfully to his wife, he should be reminded that a divorce would cost him far more than he can afford to pay if she chooses to leave him. He could also have it pointed out to him that civic law insist he pay support to his family, "or else" (which could even mean jail).
As many of us have observed, allowing jerks to be jerks does absolutely no good what-so-ever as far as making them stop, goes. Yet bully's can only be bullies when others let them be. One may have to go further than this. One must speak up against such persons.
Happily, in our day, the law is on the side of the victim, not the offender.
Also, leaving a creep to fend for himself helps them discover for themselves what it's like to live alone (such as suffering from loneliness, and having to do their own laundry, cleaning, and cooking).
Post script: I readily admit that some women can be as capable of acting like jerks, as men. (As my adult son often says to misbehaving youth, "Don't act like a dope".)