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Date: March 30, 2016 10:53PM
Thank you to all who have shared their experiences, it has really helped me and my family. This started in my mind as a brief description of our experience (not so much now) but it mirrors so many others.
Member since 8 over 30 years ago, married with 4 children. Always had some doubts that prevented that "excitement" others feel in their religion. Heard and read various accounts of stories that didn't coincide with what I was taught earlier in life over years mainly on mainstream news sources.Did some research that proved stories to be correct such as JS polygamy/polyamory etc.
Didn't go on mission when younger, married wife over 12 years ago and two years after getting married got married again in temple. Glad we have photos to remember 1st wedding! She has similar background to me. Fast forward, attendance was semi with other obligations preventing all the time.
Fast forward - 3 wks ago last Friday my wife sent message saying she was really sad. Called to find out why and she began to explain that I was right and there was a lot more.She referenced CES letters that were in a post on FB from a friend originally posted by Taylorwordpres also known as Taylor6. I had never heard of this and told her I would look into. Needless to say I was shocked, not because it was all new, but a good portion of it was new. Two plus weeks later and I verified each account of what was written on separate sources including church's own sites/documents for a lot of it.
Then I found out more, unless I missed these in the CES Letters they were equally damaging... 5th Lecture supporting multiple 1st visions as told in CES Letters and differing versions of Diety that was in the D&C until 1920's. JS's arrest for fraud upon collecting money to treasure hunt with same seer stone used to translate and Adam/God Doctrine approved by JS and taught by BY (seriously can't believe this one actually was taught) My wife and I knew we couldn't go back in good conscience. We had to choose between three scenarios. I'll never forget this Easter, prior in the week she ordered 365 Day Christian Devotionals for our kids. While getting the Easter baskets ready I opened one and started to read. I immediately became extremely emotional with all the feelings coming out at once as I continued to read I was inspired and thought this is what it is about. Gospel of Jesus is supposed to be good news and make you feel this way, totally the opposite of what our former church made us feel.
Not certain if and when we will join a church again, but we do believe in God/Jesus and Holy Ghost (not certain which version now), but who knows that will come over time.
Our 3 choices:
1. Continue to go reluctantly knowing we would be sick to our stomach listening to that for our kids and ourselves also thinking how would they feel in 10 years if they knew we knew the truth and didn't tell them.
2. Leave quietly knowing one foot still in the door and open to all persuasion attempts and lack of closure.
3. Officially resign to let the healing process continue.
We chose option 3, signed letter this morning for ourselves and our children (hopefully know issues with signing for minors) and I dropped it off certified/registered this afternoon. I know there will still be some emotional times for LDS church has strong socio influence in the way everything is structured, but we are so excited for the future!
I am so grateful for my wife and her courage to share what she knew was true.
So question is how best to share with mainly believing extended family and maintain good relationships?