Posted by:
jon
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Date: October 21, 2010 12:14PM
I'm not sure if this is relavant to your case, as I left TSCC at 19 years old, but as a teenager in VA, I only dated non mormons(TBM Girls in my area were not attractive). My first girlfriends had no effect on me because they didn't drink, or smoke or whatever, so church really didn't come up much. We just did things I would have done with any "Molly". It was my non mormon buddies that got to me. Once I realized that the world would not come to a screaching halt if I drank a beer(dropped a Sacrament water tray, because of a hangover once:D), other things started to open up to me. It was a short trip to attending High School parties, then finding girls with lower morals (God bless those girls!). But I was still living a double life, pretending to be a good Stake Presidents son on track for a mission on one hand, and having a good time with the "Gentiles" on the other. I never had that final straw moment that led me away. There was no site like this in 1987. I just thought about changing my ways, and spending 2 years on something I really didn't believe in, and having to live the rest of my life like that, and I decided I wasn't going to do it. I moved out and never went back to church. It was later on that I realized why I never really believed in this foolishness.
I guess my long rambling message is, if you are doing things with him that any TBM girl would do, and are not forcing him to go to your church with you sometimes(or skipping church altogether for a picnic, if you don't go), going to a bar to dance(not drink), maybe an R rated movie, or being very upfront that you will never, ever join his church,(I'm assuming he doesn't know you are on sites like this) You are not taking him out of his "Mormon comfort zone". And he is just thinking he will convert you some day, or is just enjoying his time with you so much he isn't thinking of the future at all. You views on the WORLD, he won't have much of a problem with. Your views on his CHURCH, he will. I think you need feel him out, and see if you are wasting your time. I hate to say it, but if he is a TBM he loves his church more than you.