I still remember how I felt when a friend proved to me that there was no Santa. It was very similar, on a lower scale, to how I felt when I learned the church is not true. Lied to, disrespected, embarrassed, stupid, indignant. WHY?!! I wanted to know.
So, Mormons (former me included), are like children who believe in Santa with all their hearts.
liesarenotuseful Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > So, Mormons (former me included), are like > children who believe in Santa with all their > hearts.
Except that small children have not fully developed their reasoning ability to realize that the idea of Santa bringing presents all over the world in one night is not logical. Adult Mormons do not have a similar excuse.
Mormons are like weeds in the garden of religion. Weeds do not respect boundaries and no matter how hard you try to get rid of them they keep popping back up.
I look back on the years of being brainwashed and plodding on a treadmill with regret and embarrassment. Regret for having a skewed mindset in some (a few of them significant) of my child-rearing decisions and approaches. I don't think I will ever be able to fully forgive myself for that part of it. Regret, also, for the loss of my own life's experiences and possibilities because I also was raised as a mormon.
The embarrassment comes from thinking about my decisions and mindless adherence to some extremely ridiculous things. I'm 56...so for those of you of a similar or older age, you probably know many of the things I refer to, which are now not referred to or maybe even known by the regular church meeting going TBMs today.
The feelings I have, for those who are still mouldering in the muck of being TBMs, are mixed. There are loved family members still in it. And I wish with all my heart that they understand that they have been duped. I like what byuatheist said: Mormons are like we were; Like we are, they may become.
The flying spaghetti monster knows that leaving the church didn't solve all my problems, but it sure did knock a thousand pound monkey off my back. May all be so fortunate.