Posted by:
getbusylivin
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Date: June 06, 2016 10:03AM
I'm fine with my change in beliefs. As I get more settled in to the exmo worldview I'm more at peace, less nervous, happier. My wife, meanwhile, is still devout. (But maybe less so?)
As many of you have urged (to me and others), I avoid theological warfare. I respect her differences in belief. Any discussions that do come up are without blame or shame. I bite my tongue a lot.
Instead, I try to be a good hubby and stepdad to her kids. I find that now 'm taking a more proactive approach to the kids' lives and needs (e.g. yesterday I mentioned that one of the girls is getting a little pudgy and maybe we should help her watch her diet or encourage a dance class at the gym). I think I'm a better husband because I know I have unwanted and, IMO, negative competition: LDS. I'm trying to show through my actions and by expressing my inner happiness that there's an alternative to the church.
It seems to be working (knock on wood). Saturday night I suggested we take the girls to the zoo on Sunday instead of church. She said yes--I'm pretty sure partly because I didn't press the point or get all high and mighty--i.e., "We should take to girls somewhere instead of that stupid church!"
We had a great time at the zoo--a perfect family excursion. Not one mention of the church. Just laughter, love, fresh air and sunshine--the important stuff.