Posted by:
jdoubledub
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Date: June 10, 2016 12:52PM
So, here's part I:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1829713So after all the good suggestions, I wrote a quick email to the stake prez. I tried to be cordial and not a jerk, even though he pissed me off. Here it is:
Bro. So and so,
You told me I could ask questions about my 'loss of testimony'. If you can research and give better answers than the brethren and FAIR on these subjects, I will heartily return to church. Here's a link to most of my questions, although not all: cesletter.org. Read that and let me know. Also, I found it very disturbing that I asked you at least twice if you were visiting my home to see my wife, and both times you responded 'yes.' It then looked as if you were there to talk to me. I don't agree with the dishonesty, coming from somebody that's supposed to be in a 'leadership' role in his church. I felt ambushed in front of my kids and don't appreciate you bringing up subjects that I am not even allowed to talk to my kids about without severe consequences from my wife. Not to mention, if somebody is visually sick, it stands to reason that maybe a different time would have been more appropriate.
I am going to save you a lot of time, and ask you to please not come back. I no longer consider myself a member, and I would appreciate you putting me on a no-contact list (not that one exists). From what you said last night, you assume that I am feeling a certain way and that nobody leaves unless they are looking for negative things about the church. I found all I ever needed to confirm my decision by looking on the church's own website. If I ever feel the need to come back to the mormon church, I will contact the proper 'authorities'. I appreciate you honoring my wishes. Thank you for your time.
jdoubledub..
So, it took a few days, but I got a response back today. Here is what he said:
Hello jdoubledub,
I apologize if you felt ambushed or that I was dishonest; that was never my intent and I surely hope I did not cause more frustration between you and your sweet wife. I was unaware of you or your wife’s story prior to the visit. The ward mission leader set the appointment, he asked if I would be interested even though he was leaving town, I said yes, he sent his assistant to go with me. I was pretty much clueless and should have been a little better prepared and I am truly sorry for causing discomfort.
When you asked “would you like to see my wife?” I did not take the question as “are you here to see my wife?” so thus my response with a yes to both questions. I was happy to meet with just you or the both of you, whatever was convenient, it was a treat to meet all of you. You were very cordial considering the circumstances and I appreciate that.
In regards to the cesletter.org I am probably not the guy to respond to that good brothers questions in a way that would be helpful to you. However, if something comes my way, and I expect eventually something will, I will most definitely forward for your consideration.
Your wishes for no contact will be honored and forwarded to the bishop so he and other ward leaders are aware of your request.
Warm Regards,
Stake Prez.
Okay, let me clarify a few things that I didn't like about this letter back, and I hope I'm not nitpicking. First of all, the ward mission leader fixed an appointment??? My wife said there was nothing set, and now I'm not sure I believe her. Second, why would the stake prez be doing visits for a ward mission leader??? He obviously knew about my situation before hand. Lastly, all you have to do is look at my other posts on here and you will get a good history about my life with my wife. I can tell in an instant whether or not somebody 'talks to god' when they utter the phrase 'sweet wife.' If, by sweet, makes life hell, than they are correct. But I know that their inspiration/revelation is bullshit the second they utter that about her. Anyway, let's see how long they go without trying to contact me again.