Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: September 24, 2016 09:16PM
1) Yes, anyone would feel jealous of someone who falls into a fortune. I believe that money is a good thing to have. I believe that it can help to buy happiness. (Though, if you're miserable inside, you can still be a miserable millionaire.) Healthy jealousy might goad you into working harder, so you can have something, too. Ambition is key to success.
2) My TBM in-laws disinherited my husband, me, and our children (their own grandchildren) when we left the Mormon cult. I was so angry! But, gradually, I accepted the fact that it was their money. Theirs, and not mine, and not my children's money. Some cranks leave everything they have to their dog, or to the Mormon cult, or some other cult or church. My wealthy neighbor died intestate, so the State of Utah got everything. Some people gamble it all away. Some people die and leave their families with a huge debt.
Anger gives power to the target of your anger. My TBM in-laws were not worth my being angry or unhappy or feeling bad. I erased them from my life, just as they had erased my family from theirs. I wish I had the space to tell you of the terrible things that happened to the recipients of that money. Some ended up spending it all and becoming bums, two committed suicide (money didn't make them happy enough to go on living). My father in law also committed suicide. Don't waste your time and happiness on hating others.
It helps to be grateful for what you already have, such as freedom, solitude, the purity of your own thoughts. Sometimes, money comes at a terrible cost. LOL--your uncle and your aunt have to pay taxes on that land.
3) If I had a million dollars, I would help my children with their mortgages and doctor and dentist bills, etc. I would put money aside for my grandchildren's educations. I would pay for some nice vacations to Disneyland or Europe--whatever they want.
I would share the money equally among my children. It's not fair to give a child less money, just because he's more successful due to his hard work.
But--I would portion out my estate according to how many children they have to provide for. My child with 3 children would receive more than my child that has only 1.
My oldest brother actually said that in Old England, it was the custom to will the entire estate to the oldest son! We are of English descent. He was dishonest, and did not like to work, and lived off my parents' dime, as did his children. When he conned my parents into making him executor and trustee and power-of-attorney and main beneficiary of their estate, my other sibling and I hired a lawyer. Otherwise, the oldest brother would have stolen it all. Still, that brother and his son did steal our share of the stocks and the business.
No matter what, if I were rich, I would hire an attorney (and maybe a bodyguard).
In your case, you can do nothing but suck it up, conquer hate and jealousy, and have a good laugh at tax time.