Posted by:
Nightingale
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Date: November 29, 2016 02:13PM
In Richard Packham's thread about off topic posts, saucie referred to me as a nevermo. I'm taking my reply off that thread as, ironically, my comments veered quite far off topic, especially given Richard's subject matter.
Thank you so much, saucie, for your kind comment about me.
However.
And this embarrasses me.
I am not a nevermo!
Yes. I am one of those people who inexplicably, as an adult, actually chose to join the Mormon Church, after meeting the missionaries through friends. I was looking for a new church and didn't do enough research before getting involved. I won't say I 'converted' because I even told them I didn't have a 'testimony' and didn't believe in JS as anything more than a regular man and they said it didn't matter. I didn't hear any of the doctrine I later had serious trouble with as the missionaries carefully kept to their script and even found me a missionary whose family was formerly evangelical, my usual brand but I hadn't been to church for a long time as I didn't fit in, kind of a joke considering what I did next. So this mishie knew how to maneuver me into a decision to get baptized, selecting Mormon scriptures and tidbits that were familiar and comforting to me as they were reminiscent of biblical themes. (However, I take full responsibility for my decisions).
The night of the baptism service I regretted my choice even before I went into the font. Silly me, I thought I couldn't call it off (and indeed, my Mormon friend, whose husband was going to baptize me, said it was too late to change my mind).
I tried to toe the line for three years, got depressed and discouraged and confused and upset and finally had the bright idea that I was free to leave (rather than continuing the struggle to fulfil my 'commitments' - which I had never understood in the first place). Leave I did, the instant after that realization popped into my head. Just exited the chapel, walked across the lawn to my car, drove away and never went back.
I have worked out the whole experience by reading and posting here, enjoying all the input from a lot of fine people with great brains.
So I 'joined' without 'converting' and in that way didn't have to go through withdrawal from a cherished belief system or anything like that. I hung onto my previous basic EV Christian beliefs throughout. That was obviously one source of my struggles to understand Mormonism and to overcome doubts once I glimpsed some of the true Mormon doctrine that clashes with EV teachings. But there have been a lot of feelings to work through, like how suddenly your (few) friends are not there any more and you realize they never were real, like when you find out about the true (bad) character of the early church leaders and are shocked at the duplicity, like the day you read at RfM about the racist doctrine (that you never noticed before because you stupidly didn't read the standard works in any great detail), that made you feel ashamed to be associated, and the time you read Deconstructor's post about JS and the abortions he cruelly procured for his female victims and the disgust overwhelms you, and when you realize your PB that seemed special ('miraculously' including as it did your favourite BoM scripture) was instead at best run-of-the-mill, at worst a downright lie, and when you realize that you were never really wanted or valued and that asking questions made you suspect in their eyes.
I could go on.
But yeah. I was a Mormon. If only in name by dint of wading into their font, unwillingly and hesitatingly at that point in the proceedings (after the presiding bishop, whom I had never met, accused my friend, the married man referred to above, who was going to baptize me, of having an affair with me - not the least bit true and a devastating accusation to me as a Christian), but I made a bad decision to go ahead with joining and I find it hard still to push away the regret at my stupidity and participation and memories such as the doubting, struggling missionary who told me that my talk at a zone meeting bolstered his testimony of JS in a way he had never before experienced. I truly hope he hasn't based his life on that moment. I often wish I would bump into one of 'my' missionaries here at RfM.
Too, regret and dismay that my name is on their books forever, even if I ask for removal.
I'm glad though if I seem like a nevermo.
Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 11/29/2016 03:02PM by Nightingale.