Posted by:
Pariah
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Date: December 10, 2016 05:29AM
Do what Smirkorama, Gatorman and Praydude advise--and do it immediately.
If you have children, you need control of the assets. You will be doing this for THEM, so don't feel guilty about it. Someone needs to be reasonable, and practical, here.
I went through an awful divorce, in which my then-husband completely abandoned me and the children, blindsiding us, the day after Christmas, over the phone. He said he was not going to pay alimony or child support, and that the kids and I would "be OK." I was a TBM SAHM with no job, and he had recently moved us 800 miles from home. I ran to the bank as soon as it opened, but it was too late. All the assets were gone, and hidden away. I hired an attorney, but got only the minimum child support, for the minimum amount of time--which he consistently didn't pay.
Anyway, the person you love, just might not love you back. The person you take care of, and entertain, and provide a life for, just might not appreciate you. A father just might suddenly abandon his sweet little children, and not even contact them again for many years, if at all.
You do not deserve to be rejected. My aunt, a psychologist, says that selfishness is the number one cause of divorce. When someone is as selfish and Narcissistic as your wife, it wouldn't matter how wonderful her husband is. A selfish person decides what they want, and then they get it, at any cost. My narcissistic ex-husband threw his children under the bus, and they absolutely did not deserve to be treated like that!!!! Neither do you.
You do what you have to do, and it will make you feel better, to be more in control. Time will pass, slowly, things will be resolved. Another man will emerge in your wife's life. 90% of the time, there is someone else.
Life was rough for me and my children--rougher than we thought we could endure--but at the same time we were happy and enjoying life and love and accomplishment. Never once, did I want my ex back. I fell out of love with him in an instant! All he had to say is, "I don't want a family, and I don't want kids. I don't care what happens to them."
Emotionally, my divorce was easier, because I didn't have the pain of love lost, or the longing to have my ex come back to me. I was glad to be rid of the jerk. 15 years later, he's still a jerk.
Someday--maybe even right now, maybe in a month or a year--you will be so happy to be rid of her! Trust me in this!