Posted by:
peculiargifts
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Date: March 12, 2017 08:06PM
Please check out Richard Packham's website and read some of his essays. They are very accurate and will give you --- and your daughter --- a good bit of information for figuring out where to go from here.
http://packham.n4m.org/index.htmIn particular, look at:
http://packham.n4m.org/questionnaire.htmand
http://packham.n4m.org/inlove.htmand, particularly, if children are in the future:
http://packham.n4m.org/children.htmSome nonMormons have made marriage to a Mormon work. But it only works if the Mormon is open-anded and caring enough to truly respect the other person, and if the Mormon spouse's family is also open-minded enough to do the same. And if the family is honestly willing to allow the couple to decide for themselves how to raise any children.
What I have seen is that for a non-Mormon to marry a Mormon adds a huge extra layer of stresses and problems on the relationship that are not there in other marriages. First, to my mind, is what do they do if they have children?
Mormon families will often shun or actively show disapproval for a non-Mormon in-law. They will treat her as a second-class human, and even as an agent of the devil. They will interfere in child raising to a terrible degree, even telling children that the non-Mormon parent is bad, wrong, evil, following Satan --- and should be ignored where religion and morals are concerned. They often will make constant attempts to brainwash the children into joining the Mormon church, even if they have been told not to. They will do this in secret, if that serves their purposes.
The Mormon church teaches children many things that are truly harmful. It teaches a history of the world that is demonstrably false. It teaches practices that are now known to either have no value, or to actually do harm. It teaches mindless adherence to what you are told, and that questioning Mormon authorities is wrong, and speaking out against Mormon authorities is wrong, even if you are speaking out against an authority who is doing something harmful or evil. You must never criticize anyone higher than you in the Mormon hierarchy. Absolute obedience is the highest value in the Mormon church.
Female children are taught that their only value is as wives and mothers, and that they must always subordinate themselves to their husbands, bishops, and all other Mormon leaders. Righteous Mormon women will be plural wives in the afterlife, and they have no choice in this. Unmarried Mormon women are inferior creatures, and will be assigned to some husband as a plural wife, after death, if they are righteous.
And through all of this, they hypocritically bend the truth to pretend that they value women so very highly.
There is too much else to list, but check out Richard's websites and encourage your daughter to think about this seriously. The Mormon church is an awful place to raise children, if you value honesty, a sense of personal worth, and think that women have more choices than married motherhood and housekeeping.
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