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Date: March 14, 2017 01:08PM
I agree that it's unfortunate for a child to be raised to think he is a genius. My cousin is a true genius, and he was getting oscilloscopes for Christmas, when we were getting Tinker Toys. He quickly became bored with school, and dropped out in his junior year of high school. He made a million dollars, by the time he was 16, and he ruled over his parents like a martinet. He was allowed to do whatever he pleased, and he was never "socialized." He was one of the first Silicon Valley garage geniuses, along with Hewlett and Packard. He is very unhappy, and borderline crazy, and hoards his money, instead of enjoying it.
If a child is actually NOT a genius, it's even worse for him to be deluded. My neighbors' son was also never taught the social skills. They put him though private school, and then an Ivy League school, and then Ivy League law school. No girls would date him, so he went on a mission, and met a girl there. He liked being a student, so he decided to go back to medical school, and my neighbors are still paying his tuition, plus they bought him a house for his wife and children. Now, the son thinks he and his wife are too good for his ex-Mormon parents, and they rarely see them or talk to them. He plans to be a GA someday.
There are other things in life that are important. Perhaps your relative's son could be humbled by some old fashioned peer pressure, or by athletic competition. "Socialization" is underrated, and is being usurped by electronic devices. Feedback from peers gives a young adult a more realistic view of himself.
My own kids had work experience in low-paying jobs, while they were still in high school. They worked to help put themselves through the university, and to have a car. I helped, but I was a single mother, and could not do it all. My children were balanced with interests in sports and friends and fraternities, and didn't earn any scholarships, but they were accepted to some great universities. They developed a work-ethic, and an independent spirit, that has contributed to their success in life.
It's true that these days a Master's degree, at least, is needed to get a good job. Your relative's son could go on to get his law degree or an MBA. Writing skills are useful in business and law. I went back to graduate school, and doubled my salary. My children learned from me, and they have graduate school degrees, also.
Art, Literature, Music, Theater--all these make great HOBBIES. Sometimes, these pay off, in things like website design, technical writing, and teaching. I taught piano lessons to put myself through BYU, and made more money than any of those student jobs paid.
It is great to dream! While you're dreaming, you can plug along. It's a problem when kids are allowed to skate through life, hanging onto their parents' shirt tails.