Posted by:
BigSis
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Date: March 19, 2017 10:56AM
If you and your fiance share a life-time sort of bond, time and distance won't change that.
If you don't, this is an excellent way to find out before rings and kids are exchanged.
Life-time bonds are not as common as is believed when one is young. If by "incredibly supportive," you are referring to any unwillingness on his part to relocate after a year, I would think that through. If he now says he will relocate in a year, that sounds like sufficient time for him to put a resume together, explore options, including staying put, if that's what he chooses.
This opportunity is not only in you pursuing your career, but a test of your relationship, and the depth of meaning behind the words that you and he have exchanged.
Would you want to "keep" him, if that means keeping him only by force of your daily presense? By "fiance," I assume you to mean that it is both of your choices, every day, come what will. This opportunity, this one year, is a relatively small test. The relatinship test is the larger opportunity, in terms of the impact it could carry.
And, a caveat: Since you will be the one requesting that he move in a year, it will then be you who will need to be "incredibly supportive," including things like, job searching, financially supporting him (without hesitation or denigration), his networking, his choice of abode, and so on. You should put this on your fridge now, so you remember it when the stress starts.
Take the opportunity; both of you live life to the fullest. No one can predict the future, even were you to stay put.