Posted by:
ColdHearted
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Date: March 21, 2017 01:01AM
Some will be tempted to rush to the keyboard and write "OF COURSE NOT!", but hear me out. I think it's better to read my story first.
I'm a guy in his very early 20's, and grew up as a Mormon.
While I'm not from Utah, or even from the U.S., the Mormon people I grew up around seemed just as fanatical and crazy.
Further, I am from a very interesting corner in Latin America (Guadalajara, for the curious) which is very prosperous, yet stubbornly religious, so there weren't big cultural, social, or legal incentives to keep my Mormon family in check.
I started doubting the Church from an early age, and by my 12th or 13th birthday (I can't remember exactly) I wasn't a believer anymore.
Now, some might believe that the mind of a kid is, without exception, unable to understand the world and the Church doctrines enough to doubt them. I beg to differ. While that may be generally true, I have always been unusually curious around the world.
My family did, of course, doubt me. They just believed that I had read anti-mormon stuff on the internet without having enough discernment to question it. While it's true that I read evidence on the internet that contradicted the teachings of the church, I'm not dumb. As you all know, doubting your religion isn't easy, intellectually or emotionally; so I was very thorough, but they still didn't believe me. In an attempt to "discipline" me, they made my life miserable.
Later, due to personal reasons, I had to move with some relatives that were even more fanatical. To say that they shoved the Book of Mormon down my throat would be an understatement. Two of my best teenage years were made even more miserable because of them.
I greatly resented the above experiences, and made a point of keeping myself distanced from the Mormon religion and lifestyle as much as possible. I wouldn't allow myself to re-live the same misery again. I would move out of my parents' house asap, and wouldn't even think about dating a Mormon girl...or so I thought.
Just before turning 20, I earned a scholarship to study in France for a year.
While in France, and for reasons that I'm too embarrassed to admit, I ended up going to the church a few times. Still, I was honest, and presented myself as a nonbeliever, expecting people to shun me, or to have the same holier-than-thou attitude that I had seen from Mormons...
...But I was pleasantly surprised. Not only I wasn't met with hostility, but people genuinely liked me. I felt that they were refreshingly laid-back and accepting.
In the ward I met a few good and very attractive girls. Some of them showed interest in me, even when knowing about my disbelief, which I found strange.
I was in a mental tug-of-war. On one hand the memories of my miserable Mormon childhood and adolescence, on the other hand thoughts like "well, this is Europe, and Mormons are accustomed to being a tiny minority in a land where religious extremism is frowned upon, so they might be more open to romantic relationships with people who don't share their faith (heck, in Scandinavia they even celebrate Festinord alongside non-Mormons!), without trying to shove their Books of Mormon down others' throats, and they actually know what they are getting into, so religion will probably not become a problem...but I'm too scared to try."
In the end, I couldn't decide what to do. I ended up not getting in a relationship with those inoffensive-looking Mormon girls.
So, this got me wondering. Is there any possible scenario where a relationship with a Mormon girl could work?
(I suspect the issue of conservative values will come up. I don't really have an issue with them, as long as they are practiced intelligently.)
Finally, sorry for my English. Please tell me if something isn't clear enough.
Edited 11 time(s). Last edit at 03/21/2017 06:02AM by ColdHearted.