Posted by:
Hervey Willets
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Date: March 30, 2017 11:32PM
Just for the record, we're nevermo-but I'm sure this transcends religions.
My parents are in their early eighties. My mother is aging gracefully--my dad not so much. Much as I love him, my dad could never have been described as a 'kindly soul', but over the last couple of years, he has been becoming nastier and nastier. I think a great part of this is that he resents growing old, and not being able to be in charge of everything the way he used to be. He is forever losing things and accusing my mother or I of having taken them--not just direct accusations but all kinds of mutterings when he is looking for something (I think he thinks he is speaking under his breath and w can't hear him). Everything from about how he is going to have us arrested to how he s going to leave this house and never come back. Funny in a sad way, because he could never possibly look after himself.He sleeps and eats on his own weird schedule, turning his nose up at a nice meal my mother made, only to later demand short order service (He also stuffs himself with crackers, cheese and cookies on a continual basis).
Anyway, what I need are suggestions or advice (not legally binding of course) about what kind of (involuntary) care I can seek for him, and legal help for my mother if push comes to shove. They live at home, and I live with them (have done since a debilitating car accident 20+ years ago. My mother would do just fine in a Senior care home, she makes friends easily, does Red Hat Society, and is willing to go along to get along. My dad, on the other hand, I believe would be the sort of person nursing homes dread, and I also know that he would be absolutely miserable there. I've been able to keep the house up, with what help my mother can provide, but my moving out would not be the answer. My mother is already bearing the brunt of his tantrums, and doing all the cooking and housework is way beyond her.
I's sorry, I'm not even sure where I'm going with this screed anymore, but if any of you have been in a similar situation, I would be obliged if you tell me how you handled your situation. my email is up top if you prefer not to post on the board.
As they say in Mormonese--"Bless yore hearts and I sure appreciate ya".