Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: April 12, 2017 02:08AM
Congratulations on your new baby!
Enjoy the quiet times, the bonding times. This is a special series of moments that you will savor forever!
I was glad to not have a lot of visitors. Especially, my TBM in-laws wanted to feed my new babies. My MIL said she was too ill to do anything else--no cooking, no helping around the house, so that all she could do was be in charge of feeding the baby, so I could do all the chores. She wanted me to sterilize the bottles and mix the formula, etc. She did this with all of her daughter's children. She absolutely did not want me to breast feed, but I stood up to her. My pregnancies and deliveries were difficult, and all I wanted to do is rest, and get the baby to eat, and enjoy this new little person.
My mother stayed with me for the first two weeks, and she acted as the door-guard, to ward off unannounced and unwanted visitors from the ward. She would say the the baby and I were asleep. It was flu season, and we were phobic about germs. Some Mormon women came over with their children, because they wanted the children to experience a newborn baby. My mother said it was "doctor's orders" to keep the baby away from kids, until the baby was older, and flu season was over. After my mother went back home, my in-laws came over, and took the baby out of his crib, while I was asleep. I woke up and went downstairs, and they had all the runny-nosed grandchildren there, passing around my baby like he was a teddy bear, not supporting his head, not being careful.
I immediately hired a neighbor's college-student daughter to come over in the afternoons to supposedly help me with housework, laundry, cooking, etc. Actually, all I asked her to do is study, and answer the door. The in-laws could come over when my husband was home.
Do you REALLY want those dinners, that are often made by people's kids, or "thrown together", that you or your husband could make just as well--and germ-free? I know a few women who use expired ingredients. (I have seen too much)
Be glad they are leaving you alone. If someone asks you to cook dinner for someone, just say, "No." I cooked 10-times more dinners than I received, and I didn't have much money at the time. People in our ward could have easily ordered expensive take-out every night.
I froze meals ahead of time, which was a life-saver for me and my mother--especially when I had other children to take care of.
What a fun time it is! I'm happy for you!