Posted by:
smirkorama
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Date: April 20, 2017 04:11AM
worriedandmad Wrote:
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I am all TOO familiar with the situation that you are talking about.
They would not openly admit it but I could see that My MORmON parents were actually disappointed that I did not die on my mission when I became seriously ill, because my demise while on a mission would have meant a windfall of sympathy and acknowledgement and recognition for them from the fellow members of their stupid secret (unmentionable) handshake social club AKA MORmON church ward. It might have even given an essential compensatory / sympathy boost to my male parent's quest to become ward bishop (something he was never able to achieve in spite of his desperate obsessive longing for such a calling.) Besides that, my demise would not be that much of a personal hard ship for them, even though they could pretend like it was for the sake of garnering sympathy, because, A. they NEVER really had any personal interaction with me to miss after my demise anyway, and B. they would still have 5 other surviving offspring to serve as their critical continuing MORmON family children props to provide them with grandchildren and fodder for "good member" MORmON family oriented discussion material as they continued to participate in their much more beloved than me MORmON church dog and pony show, C. it would not be them that would have to do the actual dying at that point.
IF you were like my ( CRAPPY) MORmON parents, at this point you would make it a point to force your son out on his own in his highly compromised condition that came about due to his mission, in order to punish him for being so weak and succumbing to prevailing conditions that were imposed on him. After all he must have sinned in some way, even if it was only in not having enough faith, which is what brought the failure onto himself. That is MORmON thinking right there.
As well, in MORmONISM suffering is good ......especially when it is some one else who has actually to do it.
I suffered immensely through out my 20's due to illness that I encountered on my mission. I am still dealing with the health repercussions of that deal decades later in my life. I am still behind financially as well. The one good thing about that situation is that I arrived at a point where I simply could no longer afford much of anything, that meant that paying dues to the MORmON secret handshake social club simply was not possible. That made leaving MORmONISM just that much more inviting.
I can not even begin to explain what it is like when you are supposed to be a young person in the desperate process of attempting to get an education, establish your adult life, and possibly get married and start a family, and you have ZERO financial resources ....because they were totally consumed for the sake of financing your (really THEIR!!! ) mission, and ZERO physical stamina and reserve to try to rely on. It turns out to be a brutal series of crashing and burning and not being able to get better or make any progress. Its like pouring salt in a wound as you see other people whose family supports them for serving a mission get ahead, while your own family is Hell bent on punishing you to make the point that you should have done better in a hopeless situation that they brow beat you into. They were counting on you to get MORmON Jesus to pay out on the blessings bonanza that are supposed to be due to missionaries for going on a mission. Well guess what! -MORmON Jesus is the biggest dead beat that ever existed !!! When a person has zero support from their family at that time, the same family that was so insistent that they serve a mission, conditions go from difficult to impossible.
My MORmON male parent can be glad that he is dead, so he will never have to depend on me for support in later life, because IF he ever needed any support later in his life and it was up to me , I would treat him the very same MORmON way that he treated me after my (HIS) mission. I would put him out on the street, and tell him that he better make amends with the Lord in order to save himself, because I learned that lesson from him very well
-that harder is better when people are struggling because they must be struggling due to sin, so making things more difficult for them will help purge their sin from them.
> Our DS came back from his foreign mission last
> fall due to the traumatic brain injury caused by
> an accident. He became unconscious and suffered
> all the symptoms you can possibly imagine. Worried
> sick, we asked his mission president to keep him
> at the Mission Home a little longer, but Mission
> president was anxious to put him on a plane as
> soon as possible without neurologist consent.
Oh Yeah, once a missionary becomes a liability instead of an asset then LDS Inc can hardly wait to be rid of them.
> His accident was caused by a chronic insomnia and
> extreme fatigue. After he came back, only things
> we heard from him was sad stories. The last area
> was so bad: everyone knew who the Mormon
> missionaries were and mocked them day after day.
Well, there is a reason that people/ the public does not like
the MORmON religion .....
> They would say things like, "go back to the
> states, we don't want you to be here!" people in
> the town did not like missionaries, because they
> were so pushy. He proselyted all day every day
> without any results. He was feared for the morning
> to come, so depressed to start 'another sad day',
> he woke up so many times during the nights. Thus
> the accident. In a mean time, one of the Seventies
> visited and scolded and chastised the missionaries
> saying they were so sinful and not working hard
> enough. At the every transfer, at least 3 to 5
> missionaries quit and went home.
You mean the ones who were smart enough to wise up and dump being a volunteer sales rep for LDS Inc
> It probably was
> the most toughest mission of all.
> Despite the hardships, he tried his hardest and
> put smile on his face all day long. I asked him
> why he never wrote any truth to us. And this is
> what he said: "someone is reading my email.
> Someone in the church can read it and I was
> worried about it thus I could not confide my true
> feeling. I was only allowed to say positive
> stuffs."
> He is improving slowly. But his insomnia and
> fatigue are still there. He wants to live like
> other young people of his age and do everything
> his friends are doing. But DH and I have fear
> about what is ahead of his life. Members in our
> ward said that he gave everything to the Lord. No!
> He gave everything to the church but came back
> with not only the brain but the spinal issues. He
> may not be able to find a wife inside the church,
> for he did not fulfill 24-month mission (he served
> 15 months)and girls would think he probably does
> not have functioning brain, thus he is not a good
> candidate to be a provider. He is still cheerful
> and optimistic about his life but he knows he can
> only do things slowly. I can't stand with the
> whole system, which ruined our son's health.
There is a BIG lesson in that! do not miss it! When it comes right down to it any common member is completely dispensable and disposable to LDS Inc and their blood sucking MOReMONey grabbing schemes.
Your support, OR not, from this point on will have a HUGE impact on the rest of your son's life.