Posted by:
knotheadusc
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Date: April 24, 2017 03:45AM
Many of the regulars on this board already know my husband's ex wife is LDS and very toxic. She is a master at manipulating people through triangulation (filtering information between two parties) and outright lying.
This week, I've made a determination that my husband's stepmother, who is Catholic and was always kind of close to the ex (even though Ex regularly criticized her for her Catholic beliefs), is just as toxic as my husband's ex wife is. She does a lot of the same things. Here's what happened.
My husband was out of town for some work related training. While he was gone, his stepmother sent him a very lengthy private message on Facebook that was full of guilt and accusations. She accused my husband, who is a very good and loving man, of being angry with her and my father in law. She reminded my husband that his dad is getting older and will soon die. She accused me of preventing my husband from seeing or talking to his dad (definitely NOT true) and then, the kicker... She claimed that my husband's father said that when he dies, he doesn't want her to let my husband know about it.
I suspected this stuff was mostly made up. Last night, my husband called his dad and reluctantly asked him if he'd said he didn't want stepmom to tell him when his dad died. My father in law was shocked and said, "No, I never said that. I might have said I was missing you, but of course I want you to know when I die. Your sister will tell you."
I am now really pissed off at my husband's stepmom for stirring up this stuff, especially right now. My husband's stressed out because his company lost its contract and he may soon be out of a job. We are thousands of miles away from the USA (which is a blessing), but my husband's stepmom expects him to do all of the communicating. She expects him to visit and call and send emails, but when he does, she lays a lot of guilt trips on him and outright lies about things.
I'm not looking for advice. I'm just venting. I can't stand manipulative people who lie to get their way. I could just choke my husband's stepmother for pulling this crap. It makes me really glad I never had to be around my husband's ex wife and his stepmother at the same time. Talk about a toxic brew!