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puma
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Date: June 01, 2017 09:12AM
Do those parents ever invite other parents? Just curious. I'm imagining a bunch of middle-schoolers at an amusement park.
I put your shoes on, and I have many, many questions that can't be answered without knowing the inviters, and I don't mean just meeting them. I mean spending time with them, regularly.
I put their shoes on, and I have to admit that I'm a bit astonished. Would I invite the 12-13 year old of people I didn't know on a day trip? Probably not - I would understand that's a boundry violation for most parents, strike one. Will I and my spouse be able to chaperone, be responsible for the care and safety of a bunch of 12-13 year olds?
And that question really bugs me. I would have to assume that all of these kids will be responsible for any of their own special medical needs, allergies, etc., which I'm trusting the kids to advise, because I haven't even talked to or met the parents. I'm trusting that not one of the kids will bring or obtain booze, pot, or any other substance. I'm trusting that even if I manage to keep them corralled and I'm a reasonably aware parent, that nothing like an accident will happen, so don't need to know how to reach the other parents, times the total number of kids attending.
And that's a lot of strikes against these folks. I see them, at best, as happy-go-lucky kids in grown-up bodies. At next-to-worst, I see them as not really caring or feeling responsible, just taxi-drivers with a side dish of parental popularity. You already know the worst-case scenarios.
I like the wallet question. I wouldn't let strangers take my dog on a trip.
The parents who say "Yes" to their kids - I have to wonder about them, too. There's nothing wrong with setting limits for your youngsters whom still lack a clue. You're a parent, and that's a task that sometimes includes being unpopular with your tweens and teens. Now is the age where they are coming into their own, but you make it clear that your experience still trumps his or her disappointment with "No." You are teaching limits, boundaries and the price(s) of responsibility, and, of doing the unpopular, but "right" thing. Show 'em (again and again) how it's done, now that they are beginning to think that they know everything. Let their sermons begin. ;)
Tween and teens can make any rational parent feel a bit lost, out of touch. It's their gift. Come back any time for the doses of grown-up that every parent needs. Your love of them need not include caving to their attempted manipulations of your realities. Down is not the new up.