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luvsick
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Date: July 01, 2017 12:47PM
okay. so, super long story but basically I'm a nevermo who made the super smart decision to date and fall in love with a mormon boy months before he left on his mission. pls dont berate me for this. anyways, we obviously broke up (without much choice),so these past two years now we've still been emailing regularly. while he's been gone, I took it upon myself to look at mormonism with a genuinely open mind, with the intention of proving the church to be true. well, as you may guess, my efforts were impossible, because the church as you all know is a big ugly fraud. I had told my mish that I had been looking into the church...so he probably got his hopes up but upon finding all the crap the church hides I sort of just started avoiding the topic with him. We got in arguments when it was obvious he was trying to convert me and we didnt speak for months.
anyway, fast-forward to now, we're back to talking and have been for a few months now. He comes back in less than four months, which really gives me anxiety because we both confessed we still after all this time have intense feelings for each other.
I decided to come clean about what I thought about the church. The reason for this NOW being he just sent a mass email about how solid his testimony is...which I think freaked me out. this thought of losing him to mormonism...anyways The last thing I sent him was a message which basically amounts to "While you've been gone I put my heart and soul into investigating the church because I love you and I'm sorry to say this but after what I found I know the church is not true." I did not lay out ANY reasons or facts about why I thought that it was not true, I just expressed my anger and sadness over the facts the church hides from its members. And I told him that if his church is really true, it can handle his questions and doubts (he had sent a message before saying how his solidified testimony "chased all his doubts away). So I just encouraged him in that. And I sort of gave him the ultimatum saying if you know I'm not in the picture of your life as a non-member then just tell me so I can stop torturing myself over this. In the end, I reassured him I love him, as a mormon and not as a mormon. ugh. I hate that I love reading these ex mormon stories because I think I'm just fantasizing about him leaving. Its really taking up too much of my brain space.
So.. even if this doesn't break his shelf...maybe I planted a seed somewhere in there. what do you guys think? How do you think he'll respond?