Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: July 06, 2017 01:36PM
Yes. We can remember what we learned from them. We can write it down. Maybe you would benefit from writing a brief biography on each one of the loved ones you missed. Create a photo album.
I don't know exactly who you are thinking about, but as far as the Mormon neighbors and my former Mormon fake-friends, they don't have any wisdom--just bad advice and platitudes. "Read the Book of Mormon." "Spank your children." Their advice on parenting and on marriage and on how to live is a joke. Their children turned out bad. They are believers of lies and tellers of lies. There was very little joy, and laughter was frowned upon. Their voice was one of judgment, prejudice, and negativity.
I don't miss the Mormons at all. They were like the adamant boulders in our back yard. They encroached onto our property, and nothing would grow on them. Nothing but weeds and fungus would grow between them and around them. Nothing could live beneath their crushing weight--not like under the smaller rocks. I removed the boulders, one at a time, with pain and effort, selecting the few nicer ones, that would enhance our landscaping--and each removal left an empty hole. It would have been stupid and counterproductive to go out and find other boulders to fill the holes. Instead, I filled in the yard with rich topsoil, and then sod. Now, we have a lush green lawn to play on!
Don't try to "replace" that which is irrevocably lost, but move on to something new and better. When I left the cult, I created a new lifestyle, new hobbies and renewed old interests, healthy eating, learning, fun outdoor exercise, more time with my family, more money to spend on fun, different reading material, better music, a more positive outlook on life, more LOVE in my life.
Leaving the Mormons behind (they shunned me, anyway) was not a loss, but an improvement in the quality of my life.