Posted by:
ProfitMonster
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Date: August 15, 2017 06:38PM
I'm a 32 year old male. I read the "Journal of Discourses" (church published history books) on my mission which only added to already existing doubts about the church (from how the church treated me for being gay.) My spouse and I eventually had our names removed in 2010.
Since leaving, the hardest thing for me has been not having a sense of community anymore. We're not into the gay scene (it's just not our thing) nor are we believers in religion (I consider myself agnostic) so going to a church isn't appealing. I have many friends and a big family who are mostly all TBM's but they completely accept and love me and my spouse (I realize I lucked out since I know not every gay mormon gets that from friends / family) I live in another state now so I don't get to see them very often, just social media (which can be anxiety inducing for a number of reasons!)
What are some things you've all done to reclaim that sense of community? Things that don't involve joining a church or any extremist group...after growing up Mormon, I try my best to avoid extremism and live in moderation. But, it's lonely without a community. I realize I'll never have what the cult offered. And not being open to religion or participating in the gay scene only adds complexities for a solution.