Posted by:
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Date: September 24, 2017 12:32PM
I'd also want to post on her FB, and make it public. Remove judgement, name-calling and anger. If anything, pity:
And - I spologize if this rewrite over-steps bounds, but wanted to give you a more distanced version. I have no intent to harm or offend, especially now.
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My wife has passed away. My Mormon brother and his wife have been shunning us for the last 3.5 years, and even emailed to tell us so. Speaking about his family, he said "I have no intention of bringing them around you anymore," and "I know that [wife name] essentially wants to have nothing to do with you anymore." He went on to point out that his wife had unfriended and blocked us on Facebook, just in case we missed it.
Over my wife's protests and requests to stop, they continued to proselytize to our daughters, and in a recent email to the extended family, he made a comment about being comfortable with the relationships he "was maintaining."
My brother and his wife pointedly disrespected and disregarded my wife while she was here. They treated her so contemptuously that when she was diagnosed with cancer, she asked me not to tell them. I agreed, also fearing any negative impact that increased, "time-is-short" proselytizing efforts might have had on her health.
On the morning my wife passed away, my brother posted on her FB page: "RIP. You and your smile will be missed as we mourn for you and with all who do."
My brother and his wife spent the last year living less than two hours from us. Frequent FB posts document their extensive travel, including to our city's suburbs. If they had wanted to see her smile, they very easily could have done so.
I would ask rhetorically, "Will you miss having one to treat so poorly?"
They wasted opportunity, wasted life, wasted communing with this beautiful soul, gone too soon.
I feel sorry for these people, coerced into shunning family members, and having no real freedom in faith, compassion or love. They are instructed by LDS that love is conditional, LDS using those very words on its website. Followers buy into it, literally, touting a bleak and empty type of love, in thought, word and deed.
Someday, I will be gone, too, brother, and all you will have "loved" is your standing among people who are trained from birth to believe that love is conditional. I'm so sorry for you, but can no longer tolerate the deception, or self-deception. Please leave me and mine alone.
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IMHO, he would go to his grave regretting his "choice." Not so much because he loved her, but for his shameful behavior toward his own brother, shelf be damned. -When his brother is not at his bedside, nor he at yours.