THey used to tell us, "If you are not married within six months you are a menace to the church"

You know who really, really pressures quick marriages when it comes to new RMs?

BYU coeds.

It seems so, at least from what I've seen. My youngest step sister is an example of this, as she dated a fellow RM for weeks before getting engaged, married a couple of months later, then got pregnant about a month after her wedding. All this happened before she and her husband were home from their missions for 6 months. At least, she didn't marry a complete stranger as she knew him from a high school theater group they were in.

I have long felt that pressuring people to get married within a certain time period is a bad thing to do and can lead to bad consequences. If I were counseling missionaries, I would suggest that they not allow anyone to pressure them about marriage when they get home. Unfortunately, I've even heard of Mission Presidents who have told missionaries leaving for home that their goal now should be to get married as soon as possible.

commongentile Wrote:
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> Unfortunately, I've
> even heard of Mission Presidents who have told
> missionaries leaving for home that their goal now
> should be to get married as soon as possible.

Almost the exact words mine told me when I was going home.

Fortunately, I ignored him :)

I'm sure that the official statements from the COB say nothing of the sort.

I'm also sure that 99% of the church membership does just that.

So, we have the perennial problem with Mormonism, namely determining what constitutes "Mormon doctrine". I seems more and more that the good folks in the COB don't give a hoot in hell what the membership believes or says they believe, as long as the money keeps coming in.

Really, we (and reporters from the media) need to wake up and understand that we need to hold individual members responsible for their own "doctrines", and realize that Mormon doctrine has almost nothing to do with what spills out of the COB.

Yes, and I always hated it even when I was a TBM. I remember when I told the bishop's wife to not pressure me to marry quickly because that is a personal decision.
I was really brainwashed but at least I was a mormon with some personality.

Absolutely.