Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: October 22, 2017 12:52AM
Well, victims are nice. We are obedient. We work hard, without complaining. We are polite to others, because we are taught to please others. We put others first. We put church first. I was a female victim who was very nice to my Mormon temple husband. I put him through college and graduate school. I made him dinner every night (every night, on time, and tasting delicious, or there would be Hell to pay), I listened to him, encouraged him, entertained him, looked pretty and kept the house clean, and ironed (ironed the permanent-press clothes) so we would look good at church. I was the one working full-time, and he was a full-time student, yet he never lifted a finger, doing "women's work." He beat me almost every day, until I left him, to save my life. Yeah, I carried his baggage, too.
I love Babylon's garbage dump analogy. This is exactly what I did, when I left Mormonism, though I never thought of it that way. It was actually fun, and liberating, for me to throw out all the Mormon books, music, manuals, pictures, decorations and memorabilia. I cleared my closet of Mormon jumpers with long skirts, and high heels and panty hose, and especially that ridiculous underwear.
I'm still rather submissive, and "nice" and quiet, socially, and in public, though I do rant and rave on RFM, sometimes.
The irony is that victims are not nice to themselves. In that way, Mormonism made me a horrible person. At one point, during the beatings, I didn't care if I lived or died. That's NOT being nice! (Not nice to my parents or siblings, either.)
Amyjo asks the key question: Did Mormonism make us nicer people? Or did we leave by virtue of our empathy and kindness, because we couldn't stand the hypocrisy that masqueraded as religiosity?
I would say "yes," to the latter statement. I left because I was kind, and wanted to be a good human being. I honestly felt that Mormonism was not God's work; in fact, it was an evil cult, and it hurt me to see it condone abuse, subjugate women, hate those who are "different, and separate families! I did not want that life, among "This People" for me or my children. (My children are the nicest people on the planet!)