Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: October 23, 2017 04:18AM
Creepy is a good description of Mormon girls camps. I sent my daughter to camp, "because it's a good way to raise children." The second year, she balked a bit, but her peers pressured her to go. She told me about the testimony meetings, during which the girls were forced to bear their testimonies, and weren't allowed to stop until they cried. My daughter cried after the first word, because they forced her to tell about how her father abandoned all of us, and how her grandparents died. They called her "The Crier." Is this a "testimony?" Not about God or religion, really. It was forced emotional vulnerability, to break the girls down, so they would "bond," and feel close to the cult members, around the campfire. My daughter said, years later, that she had felt "stripped naked" and "emotionally abused."
It should have been a red flag, that parents were not allowed--not even to visit. The bishop came to one of the campfire ceremonies, each year, and spoke to the girls about morals.
While my daughter was at camp, her other grandmother died, and we wanted her to fly to California with us, for the funeral. There was no phone contact with the camp. I had to go get her at camp that afternoon, but I needed exact directions how to get there. First of all, it took many inquiries, and a few hours, to finally get directions. Nobody seemed to know even where it was. A few of the people I asked, refused to tell me, saying that children were not allowed to go home from camp. Finally, I found out that our neighbor's daughter had recently come home, because she had fallen off a log, and had broken her arm. I found her parents in the waiting room at the ER, and her father gave me detailed instructions on how to get to the camp. By then, it was dark. It was a 3-hour drive, and the last 1 1/2 hours was on dirt roads, unlighted, in the very black night. I was the only car on the road. When I got there, everyone was sitting around a giant bonfire. Two women hurried out to the car to "greet" me, asking who I was. I told them who I was, and that we were having a family emergency, and they said that It was against the rules for me to see my daughter, and that parents weren't allowed, and for me to turn around and go home! I got out of the car, and started walking towards the campfire. Two more women, and a man tried to stop me. (I had no idea Mormons were so belligerent--otherwise, I would not have gone by myself.) A few of the adults were the neighborhood leaders, and I thought they were my friends. I started calling out my daughter's name, and some of the girls went to get her. When she saw me, there were tears in her eyes, and she was very upset, and she said that she was going to get in all kinds of trouble, because I was there. Somehow, I managed to get her back to the car. I told her that Grandma had died, and that we had flight reservations out the next day, but it was up to her, if she wanted to go to the funeral. She said she definitely wanted to go, but she was still afraid to leave. I had her wait in the car, and I went back to the camp (I was frightened), and I told them that by my authority as her mother, I was ordering my daughter to leave with me to go to a family funeral. I asked where her clothes were, and the women would not let me go get her clothes. I told one of her friends (who came over to our house to play all the time) to please go get her clothes, and bring them to me.
I didn't make any big verbal issue of it, because my daughter was sad about Grandma. After a half hour of silence, on that dark bumpy road, she said, "I'm glad you came to get me." I said, "I wanted you to at least have the choice of going to the funeral, if you wanted to. She said, "Even without the funeral, I'm glad you came to get me. I was praying for someone to come and rescue me from camp!"
That's how bad it was!
I told her that I wouldn't force her to go to Mormon activities, anymore. It was her choice. I didn't tell her, but I was beginning to realize that we were in a CULT!