Posted by:
smirkorama
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Date: January 20, 2018 05:52AM
mightybuffalo Wrote:
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> how many marriages
> where one spouse leaves the church stay together?
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> I've always been a to-each-their-own kind of guy
> and can see a life with my TBM wife working out
> cause she's awesome WAY beyond the church.
That is how you see it. It may, or may NOT be how she will see it. You are going to find out, to your credit because you have chosen to be more genuine than so many MORmONS who cave in to maintain the phony MORmON status quo, however being genuine does NOT mean an easy path, just a more genuine one.
In Marriage, one instantly becomes a controlling majority as that one decides that a marriage that they are in needs to be terminated. IF she turns out to be that much of a MORmON, since you want to live as a more genuine than phony MORmON person, then you are better off with out her !!!!
> Breaking it to her when I graduate BYU in April
> (i've been gradually letting on to it already)
and just as I alluded to earlier, she may not be letting on to her plans/ intentions to dump any spouse that can not remain faithFOOL to her "THE" (MORmON) church, because that really is the MORmON solution for situations like yours, or maybe she did let on and you just are NOT listening.
> I'm just curious for stats.
The stats will not really mean much of anything to you as your own situation is resolved..... to whatever extent that it gets resolved. It will just be whatever happened to you, regardless of whether you beat the odds, or not, one way or the other. That because MORmONISM has had so much pre established dominance in your life, that you had zero control over!!!!! It is really just a crap shoot whether or not your marriage will stay intact more than anything else!!!
My X (files) spouse and I both quit MORmONISM, and our marriage imploded ANYWAY, because for her the marriage was totally based on me being her MORmON marriage partner. When that did not pan out, she had to get out. The fact that I had married her for what I thought was her ( HUGE MISTAKE ON MY PART) did not matter for fecal matter as things imploded at her dictate. FWIW I do not miss her at all, but it is too bad that she had to poison the children against me and against her own parents in order to feel justified and validated through out the matter. I wonder IF the kids will ever figure out how much that they have been mislead, but the one thing that is certain is that even IF they do manage to achieve that realization, it will be FAR TOO LATE when it does happen IF it does happen!!!! - remember that deal about you having virtually zero control in your outcome ????
the thing that really pissed me off is when the MORmON judge acted AS IF it was my fault that the marriage had imploded, when I was the very last person who should have been blamed. In fact, IF I should have been blamed for anything, it was hanging on way too long -just as the MORmON religion recommends, just as two faced MORmON religion recommends dumping an unfaithful partner. I learned the hard way, that when a person hangs on to the bitter end, then all they are left with is a bitter ending!!!! The fact is that, between the negative influence of MORmONISM on her that MORmONISM insists is so positive, and the negative impact of MORmONISM on me that MORmONISM insists is positive, there was NEVER any chance that our marriage was going to work out, especially as I chose to be more genuine than phony MORmON. It was just a quirky deal that we so unfortunately ever got together at all. ......Sorry kids! .....and *THANKS A LOT* MORmON parents for making sure that there were tons of unavoidable toxic MORmONISM interjected into my life so that I never had any chance of having anything but a dysfunctional marriage !!!
(good luck!)