Posted by:
Thomas Reid
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Date: February 09, 2018 07:37PM
If we start with the assumption that sexual desire, and its expression, is a natural part of human biology, and is not of itself evil, then it seems to me whether such expression is "good" or "bad" for someone depends upon the consequences of whatever expression is used, and how it is used; be it intercourse or porn induced masturbation. And, no doubt, the consequences of either form may be "good" or "bad" given a wide variety of human contexts; including the consequences on spouses, the harmful consequences of any compulsive or addictive behavior, or even the psychological self-degradation that may result from viewing extreme forms of pornography, like child pornography or pornography involving violence.
However, your post seems to imply that the pleasure or the gratification itself is bad for you, regardless of consequences. "That" suggestion needs an argument or rational explanation, hopefully beyond religious dogma. Otherwise, it seems to be just a psychological reaction; perhaps a remnant "hang-up" born of prior Mormon indoctrination.
Personally, I do not understand why any woman would feel threatened by a husband who *occasionally* needs to express his sexuality through fantasies involving other women on a computer screen. To my knowledge, such fantasies do not typically involve a desire for marriage, a desire for a long term commitment, or the desire for an intimate, love centered relationship with the pornographic subject. It is just biology. Notwithstanding, if such viewing results in compulsive behavior, spousal abuse or neglect, or thoughts involving the degradation of women, these are consequences that transcend any otherwise innocent sexual expression and gratification. The problem, if there is one, is that human nature, social mores, and the marital relationship, are each and together already so psychologically complex, it is perhaps not surprising that the dynamics of pornography and masturbation often have negative consequences. But, again, there is nothing inherently wrong with sexual desire, sexual expression, and sexual gratification.