Posted by:
Elder Berry
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Date: February 27, 2018 11:42AM
In reading this I read how a human being went without human touch for "the kids" because they weren't "the cheater type"?
https://www.exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,2084527I once had an interesting conversation with a man who claimed to be in a loveless and mostly sexless marriage. He is wealthy and doesn't want his businesses to suffer in a divorce.
He thinks he might be gay. When he needed money for those businesses the only person who would gamble on him (the banks wouldn't) was a gay man with an investment company he knew from his neighborhood. He was so impressed with this man that he joined the gay chamber of commerce.
Eventually, he has started exploring his gay side. Interestingly enough when we had this conversation his wife had turned up the sex to a degree he never experienced with her before. When I asked him if he could be satisfied with her new found libido he said that they have been married a long time and he wasn't going to go back to monogamy with her just because she decided to finally become more like he wanted for years and years.
I found that telling and indicative of nothing like a "cheater type" of person.
Leaving Mormonism I've also tried really hard to leave concepts like stereotyping people. In my opinion the poster of the above thread is no different than the people they consider "the cheater type." Just because you are living with someone doesn't mean anything to me other than that you are living with them. If you have emotional connections great. But keeping yourself from human touch is something I find sad and something Mormonism and the societies it flourishes in hails as a virtue in demonizing some kind of stereotyped "cheater."