Imagine living on a parking lot outside the grand and magnificent Versailles Castle in France.

Everything you do on that small parking lot makes the enormous castle fall apart. Time after time. Whatever you do out there is wrong. That is what I feel living with a narcissistic sibling.

I see this palace fall time after time and I feel small on that little parking lot. It is absurd.

I grew up with 9 siblings in a over 3200 sq foot home.

I had some of my siblings and parents stay here and some of them staying over on their way to Nauvoo and I got some feedback that my house was too small.

I'm glad I have nothing to do with them anymore. Numbers of children, size of houses and paychecks seem as important to them as sizes of their callings and testimonies.

That kind of self-absorption is probably great for them but not me. I'm not humble but I wouldn't trade my contentment with their delusions of grandeur.

Mormon family is a drag. I had a sibling make fun of my "dilapidated" little house, and he sleeps on someone's boat! They are ignorant, and I have nothing to do with them.

So, if you want some peace, you have to move to a different parking lot where this person won't be aware of what you are doing, so they can't react to it or try to manipulate you to believe that you are responsible when they fall apart.

If you are dealing with a true narcissist, the only way to find peace is to disconnect from them, or at least give them as little information about your life as possible. Keep them as distant as you can. Sometimes you can achieve this while being publicly polite.

Another strategy is only to talk to them when other people are around. Some narcissists at least try to act like good citizens when other people are around.

imaworkinonit Wrote:
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> Another strategy is only to talk to them when
> other people are around. Some narcissists at least
> try to act like good citizens when other people
> are around.

Great advice. My mother hid her worst in her home. In public she was more restrained.

You need to stop trying to repair Versailles and move on.

Helping someone who makes no effort themselves is useless and a waste of time.

I am on my way. The world is large outside the parking lot.