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Date: March 30, 2018 06:19PM
In just the last few months, you have become so much stronger, standing up taller against all the garbage you have lived with, all your life!
I have related that I dearly loved the ward where I was first baptized, in the Deep South. In an environment awash with Catholics and Baptists, the Mormons were indeed like a very close family. Everybody knew everybody else's business, but not in a nosy way. We CARED about each other.
I remember getting a call from the RS Prez, very late on a Friday night (I was single back then) asking if I could go over to the local hospital to spend the night with elderly Sister So and So, who was having a rough time of it, and just needed company. I said "Sure, no problem." I put out a huge turkey-roasting sized pan with dry food for my kitties, and several large bowls of water for them, and drove to the hospital, which wasn't far away.
I didn't know the lady very well, but that was a very enriching night. She told me some of the most marvelous stories, about having been Mormon in a small, rural community (Montana or someplace) back in the late 40s or early 50s, when her daughter had been a baby. (I knew the daughter, and had thought she was a snooty witch, although she was much nicer to me after I helped her mom.) Yeah, I lost some sleep, but oh, my - those stories were priceless!
I have already distracted myself. The main story I was going to share was that I ran into a guy in my first ward - the NICE one - who acted like so many of the arrogant p-hood holders that we have all known and come to dislike.
I don't even remember what he said that pi$$ed me off. It was the way he said it. I interrupted him and asked, "Do you even realize how condescending you sounded, just then? I'm SURE you didn't MEAN to come across that way, because I know you are a nice guy, but. . ." Yada, yada. He looked like he had been kicked in the cojones. On the positive side, he never, ever, behaved like that with me again. I always made sure to greet him in a pleasant, positive way (never as "Brother" or "elder" - I never did that, except with missionaries) and our interactions were invariably pleasant.
Sometimes, you have to call them on their behavior, along with reassuring them that you are SURE they didn't mean to come across that way. This strategy has worked more than once for me, both in and outside of the church.
Behaving submissively around people like that will almost always bring out the nasty side of their personality.