Posted by:
MCR
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Date: May 13, 2018 01:24PM
Here's a little guidance:
Are you in Salt Lake County? Salt Lake County demands that parent-time issues go before a mediator first before they can be heard by a judge. A Special Master request from the opposing attorney may or may not be a good idea--the special master idea is to put someone in charge of handling day-to-day, issue-by-issue parent-time problems because a judge can't monitor details. It could help or it could be a very expensive mess.
Child support issues are completely separate from parent-time and you can get court-enforcement directly. I don't know why there would be a continuance, and I don't know what the hearing was supposed to be, but I assume it was before a Commissioner for contempt and a judgment. A judgment should be easy to get, contempt requires more hoop-jumping and doesn't result in much in Salt Lake County. However, ORS will collect a child-support judgment and that's helpful.
DCFS will not do anything besides issue a finding of supported, unsupported, something else meaning exonerated. The reason DCFS won't do more is that you are the custodial parent, therefore, the child's living situation is secure. There are so many children whose primary custodial situations are insecure that their resources have to be devoted to gaining a secure custodial arrangement for those children. Parent-time adjustments are seen as something you can pursue in the divorce court, not juvenile court, which has got jurisdiction only over clear and convincing abuse and neglect situations--which your case isn't.
Supervised parent-time will not be a long-term solution because Utah law requires that supervised parent-time have an end-game. There must be provisions for what the noncustodial parent must do to regain parent-time.
No therapist with professional ethics will opine to the court about what parent-time arrangement is in the child's best interest because treating a child isn't the same as doing a forensic evaluation of a parent-time situation. Professionals who can do an evaluation are out there, but they won't be the same person as the treating therapist. The treating therapist can opine on specific things, but will not be open-ended, and judges, especially Commissioners, don't want to put children in the position of having their confidential therapy records put before the court to be fought over by their parents. This is the general view, if your situation is different, a court will hear it--just don't be wrong that your situation was special.
There will be sympathy for your parent-time situation in court. The heart of the issue is designing a solution. Your ex is not going away, and the court doesn't have authority to get rid of him. He's got a constitutional right to parent--to some identifiable degree, and the court must respect that.
Maybe some medication regimen must be in place before parent-time. No driving the child, or something. Success will depend on coming up with a scheme that will work.
The problem that you face is that you, as a parent, see your opinion and the child's best interests as fully congruent. The court sees you as a litigant whose opinion may, in some respects, correspond with the child's best interest as interpreted under the law; or, it may not. But you will feel that you are not entirely trusted in the process. Don't get offended by that. What you're feeling is true, you're not entirely trusted. From experience, the court views litigants as highly animated by negative feelings toward their ex in addition to having valid concerns for their children. The court's got to tease those motivations apart, and that can seem really unfair.