Posted by:
exminion
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Date: June 22, 2018 03:03AM
Have you tried to get a police restraining order on these "people" who are following you around, and showing up to harass you?
The police might have some good advice for you.
I was a single divorced woman in the Mormon church for many years, and I believe every work you write! I lived in a "good" neighborhood and ward. Men thought they were "God's gift to women", and treaded is singles, and some married friends (and probably many more women who never told about it) like their personal herd of victims. The stake president's counselor was a respected MD, and he was one of the worst offenders. Another was our bishop, and his ugly pervert son. The father hit on a married neighbor, and on me. He was a repulsive little weasel, and I told him so. He spread gossip about me in the ward. My morals were impecable, BTW, and I needed my good reputation for my friendships, for the school board, and for my career. The sleasy bishop is not a Seventies. I could fill pages of stories, of what happened to me, from the time my husband went inactive, and left me with those wolves, without a husband there to protect me, through our divorce, which seemed like a license for Mormon men to hit on me. Non mormon men, such as work colleagues and fellow volunteers in the schools, did NOT accost me. They had respect for me and for my children.
As long as you think of these thugs as a "gang", you will be too frightened and intimidated to help yourself. Mormon bullies are just as cowardly as any bullies. They hang out in groups of two or three or more. I had groups bang on my door late at night, when my lights were out, and they would keep on banging, until I shouted at them through the door, that I was calling the police. They knew I lived all alone at the time.
Make a list of each individual, and take them on, one at a time. In my case, some were worse than others. The worst bully would break into our house, while I was at church playing the organ, and throw my son out of bed, kick him on the floor, shove him around the room, force him to get dressed, and drag him to church. I did research on this man, and he was involved in several people being killed, because he was negligent in his work, which was dangerous. Is this crook in jail? No, he was made a mission president.
Never count on the church or church leaders to help you face down a Mormon male criminal! Rely on the police, or take care of them yourself. Be careful, though.
Report sexual misconduct. It's your civic duty. I'll bet your neighbor has done that to many, many other women.
On your list will be some individuals that can't be stopped. Some are too wealthy to sue, as they can pay attorneys to draw out lawsuits, indefinitely. One high tithe=payer in my ward was a proven pedophile, and was molesting kids in the Primary. Some other mothers and I got together, and showed the bishop a newspaper article about the guy, and told the childrens' stories to the bishop. My story was how he would put little kids over his knee, pull down their pants, and spank them, in his Primary class. Enough kids told me, and I believed them. The bishop released the pedophile, but the next bishop let him teach Primary again. My friends had him released, but when I resigned, he was back teaching again, with yet another new bishop.
I was particularly afraid of one very large man, that was particularly dishonest, and behaved like a Mafia goon. He beat his children. I caught this thug in the act of carrying my son out of our house! He didn't know I was home. I told him to stop, he argued with me, and would not put my son down. My son was crying. I screamed at him, that he was trespassing, and he was abusing my child (he was 12), and that if he didn't leave immediately, I was calling the police. He ran out of there like a coward. I had no idea that he already had a police record! He is still around, and he and his wife shun me, and look past me, like I'm not even there. They tried to spread gossip, but I have a high-profile job, a lot of relatives in the community, and people know I'm a good person. Now, I'm safer, because my sons and sons-in-law live a block away, and are strong and athletic. One is an attorney.
Even if you can't find some kind of "clout", you can get an attorney, and threaten to sue everyone's ass, legally! It's fun to see grown Mormon men scurry like rats into the nearest hole!
You must resign! Quitting the cult, completely, put me into a different group of people. I no longer cared about them. They couldn't manipulate me. They couldn't get into my life. They couldn't even have a conversation with me. I have nothing to do with them. It does hurt me and make me angry to see them continue to abuse others--but at least my children and I aren't their victims, anymore.
Keep a copy of your letter of resignation by the door. My letter explains exactly why I left the cult, and tells about how the BOM and the Book of Abraham have been disproven, and a lot of other Truths. I even gave a copy to the deacons, who still insisted on coming to try to collect fast offerings.
Put up a "NO SOLICITORS" sign.
Some people on RFM have had restraining orders for ALL Mormons--I don't know if this is possible, but it is worth looking into.
An ex-Mormon friend of mine who lives alone had a surveillance system installed, with a camera at her front door. She said it was not expensive, in the perspective of how much tithing money she had paid to the Mormon cult.
My sons were in their early teens when we went inactive, and my daughters were still little girls. My sons had to throw Mormon men out of our house--twice! The other time, it was three men in the stake presidency, who didn't like the fact that I was too sick to continue playing the organ for the ward and the stake. I had asked for a leave of absence from my calling, while I underwent some painful hospital treatments. They told me to continue, even thought I was very ill, and that God would make me well enough to do it. Then, they threatened that if I quit, God would make me SICKER. They also said that my children would fail in life, if I didn't attend and set a good example. My baby nephew was in my arms, and he started to cry loudly, and my oldest son said, "The baby senses the presence of EVIL! We did not invite you men here. You must leave, right now!"
Two neighbors trying to recuit for a "gospel essentials class for inactives", maligned me and lied about me, right in front of my children. My younger son said, "This conversation is over." I was crying, and was speechless, and nobody else knew what to say, either. We all stood up and walked to the front door, and opened it. The men smiled started to say, "Well, if you change your mind or if there's anything you need...." I said, "You need to GO, and not come back."
Sorry to write so much, but I hope these examples have helped you. It is OK to be assertive. There are books written on how to be assertive. I had to take assertiveness classes in business school.
The Mormons have no authority over you. They have no authority from God. Would Jesus behave this way? Would anyone who took Jesus seriously act this way? Mormonism is an evil cult. My son was right.
This type of harassment did not stop, until I formally resigned, and included my minor children in the resignation, also. Resigning got the bullies out of our life!