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Life No. 5
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Date: July 06, 2018 03:16PM
I was already in therapy for PTSD. The therapist helped me understand my childhood abuse, and psychopaths in general. He helped me to understand that the family I grew up in had been extremely dysfunctional, and far from normal. He helped me deal with present abuse, and I finally made the abuse stop. (The only thing that worked was "no contact" with the psychopaths who beat and tortured me.)
All this happened, without my psychiatrist mentioning TSCC at all, though we touched on dysfunctional traits, such as male supremacy, sexism, racism, authoritarianism, perfectionism, bullying, lying, manipulation, physical abuse, pedophilia, psychopathology and Cluster B personalities, bi-polar personalities, rage, guilt, blame, and abusers getting away with their criminal acts. As you can see, there were a lot of issues I had to deal with, without mentioning the probable source of most of this craziness.
Therapy helped give me the courage to divorce my wife-beater husband, and to sue two family members who stole money from me and my siblings. Sometimes, action needs to be taken.
As I learned more about the environment in which I was raised, I gained insight into the Mormon cult. My therapist never told me to leave, but I knew I had to, if I wanted to reach my potential of happiness and success. More important, I needed to rescue my children from the cult!
Therapy helped open my mind, and jolt me out of denial, and see past the Mormon facade of "benign friendliness."
My psychiatrist was a cognitive therapist, and he helped me fill my mind with Truth and beauty, REAL history, biographies, science, music, appreciation of other cultures. I had to learn to be positive, and see the goodness in much of what the Mormons had taught me were "bad." Conversely, I learned to see the bad in what I had been brainwashed into thinking was "good."
I was ready! When my shelf broke, I was strong, happy, had a close loving relationship with my children, and had a successful career. Discovering the Truth brought me great joy, and relief, like other posters have described. My children were ready, and we resigned together.
Had we not been strong, we would have probably needed more therapy, to bear the shunning, the insults, the gossip, the defamation of character. Still, it was not as bad as the bullying and disrespect we experienced when we were members! Shunning was unexpected, and painful at first, but it soon reinforced our decision to flush Mormonism out of our life. I run into those mormon neighbors, still, and they turn away, and I feel light as air. Mormonism, and the Mormons, and their secrets and lies and weirdness and demands had been a huge burden. For us, the shunning became a plus!
Luckily, our jobs never depended on Mormons, and we had a lot of non-Mormon friends and contacts. I had already distanced us from the abusive TBM family members. We had already laid a good foundation for the rest of our lives. That was 15 years ago.
I highly recommend therapy, at any stage in the process of leaving Mormonism. There's a lot of damage to undo, and it can be undone!