Posted by:
ikandee2000
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Date: July 20, 2018 10:40AM
I have been living with my TBM parents for the past year, and it's tough to say the least. Well, last night we had a boundary issue. My mother and I were talking and I said that I would not do anything that makes me uncomfortable if the ONLY reason I am doing this is to make someone else happy. I didn't feel like this was unreasonable, but it really made my dad mad. He was listening to the conversation. He and my mom later discussed this at length, and my dad said he was uncomfortable with my dog, so he was just going to put her outside when he isn't home. I was like, huh? (We live in NC it's too hot for animals to be outside), but so as not to poke the bear, I said, "OK". I really don't think he understood what I was saying about not doing something that makes me uncomfortable just for someone else to be happy...so....not sure what to do from here. He's still really angry about this conversation, and he's being so passive aggressive, like waking up and using the paper shredder at 6am, and stomping around so loudly that the doors and windows rattle....so, where do we go from here? I'm not backing down on this boundary (I was married to a narcissist, so it's very important that I keep this in place), how do I explain to my dad that I'm not just being difficult? I am not at a place where I can move out just yet, and yes I do pay rent, so I think they should respect my boundaries....thoughts?