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Life #5
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Date: August 05, 2018 05:39PM
It's a lot more than 3 hours!
Since you mentioned work, I would actually look forward to Mondays, when I was TBM!
When I was TBM, I would start dreading the weekend on Fridays, when all the non-Mormons were celebrating TGIF. Saturday would be the "day we get ready for Sunday." (May the writer of those song lyrics be banned to an eternity of Saturdays of cleaning church buildings, ironing white shirts, preparing Primary lessons, and hearing an endless loop of those brainwashing songs and chants, forever.)
On Saturdays, my one day off as a working mother, there were always several rehearsals for various sacrament meeting musical numbers, choir accompanying, learning and practicing hymns, preludes and postludes. I also had to prepare a Sunday school lesson. I taught the "unruly" teen-agers, whom I secretly enjoyed! We had great discussions, class participation, and some fun class parties--until the cult put restrictions on everything. The priesthood leaders told us teachers not to use any other sources except the manual, and that was boring! We were told to not "encourage" questions or discussions. Try to make a good lesson for intelligent kids, with those restrictions!
By the time Sunday came around, I was already burnt out! I wanted to connect with my children, and ask them how their Saturday went, and make plans for the upcoming week, and, well, be a parent! No, I had to make sure everyone was fed and ready for 3 hours of church. If they skipped breakfast, they would suffer for those 3 hours. I had to appear "performance ready" for the stand, and be there early to play the prelude. On the early schedule, we had to get up earlier than we did on school days. On the afternoon schedule, we had to fight fatigue and mind-numbing sleepiness. I drank two cups of coffee on Sundays, but not on the other days of the week.
Sunday is "family day?" Yeah, right. My priesthood sons always had something going on, after meeting, such as fast-offering collecting and home-teaching. They hated that. Wearing a suit for 3-6 hours was torture for the boys. The girls wanted to shed their dresses, in order to play and relax, or help me cook. Mormons always came to the door on Sundays, bringing music for next week, dropping off propaganda for the children, HT and VT, Relief Society, and all that. Forget about the traditional family Sunday Dinner. Then it was time for homework, and we would have pizza for dinner. When my oldest was in the singles ward, her schedule was different, and we never saw her all day.
On the happy week days, I would come home from work at around 4:00 on the week days, and we fought the cult to keep our evenings free. That's when the kids and I had time to spend as a family. There was still Scouts on Tuesdays. We would say "No" to all the rest: YM/YW activities, WM and YW sports teams, Family Home Evening lessons, canning and welfare projects, Relief Society homemaking evening, making dinners for people who really didn't need it. I had to be very assertive with the Mormons, and tell them "NO" constantly! My children took their school work seriously! They established good not-Mormon friendships at school, in their sports, in their after-school jobs, and skiing, etc. They didn't want to go to the Mormon parties (which seemed all about sex, alcohol, and drugs.) The Mormon kids spent a lot of time gossiping, scheming, manipulating each other socially, and rebelling. My kids didn't take seminary. How many more Mormon hours is seminary! Down the road, those Mormon kids didn't do very well in life. It is NOT "the best way to raise kids."
Sorry to rant. I had forgotten how hectic Life #4 was. Yikes!