Mormon woman I know waited five years between the birth of her third and fourth children, after firing off the first 3 in less than 3 years. Do you know what caused the delay?

The gripping poverty that they live in? Maybe she was hoping that the financial situation would get better in the interim?

No.

Husband deployed overseas leaving her in practice as a dreaded single mother?

No.

The answer? Postpartum Depression that got worse and worse after each pregnancy.

I'll never understand Mormon women. People generally act in their best interests to not make their current situation more arduous. And then I hear about Mormons and the choices they make.



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To be fair, that woman could have been an atheist and still have suffered exactly the same way. ...okay, maybe not; maybe as something other than mormon she might have not tried for the second baby right away.


Okay, I'll just leave it at:

Not every woman who suffers post-partum depression is a mormon.

Not all dead men are Socrates.

Yes, but one is 100% Socrates. 100%!!!!

Many mormon women wouldn't put off having more children for postpartum depression. Having suffered from postpartum depression, it is hell. Most mormons were probably telling her that she should just go to church more, pray more, read scriptures more (which is some of the advice mormons I know with depression were given). Thankfully, she decided to take care of the ones she had BEFORE having another one.

Since I’m male, I’ve never suffered from postpartum depression, but I did have severe clinical depression for many years. I was always trying to pray it away. I kept telling myself that I needed to read my scriptures more, attend the temple more often, try to be a better home teacher, keep my thoughts more pure.

The medical issue that was the root of my depression was finally discovered. I feel dramatically better now. The church, praying, scriptures, the temple, etc, didn’t help me at all.

Way back during the open house for the Provo temple our ward's
Elders Quorum was scheduled in as ushers. So I'm standing there
with one of the other guys in the ward--I know his name but
that's about it ("hi, how do you do"). So as we're standing
there he starts talking to me about his very low sperm-count, and
how he's been to doctors yadda yadda. I'm thinking to myself,
"why is he telling me this incredibly personal thing?" Then it
hits me--he feels guilty about not having any kids yet so he's
worried that we'll all judge him harshly for it.

Mormonism makes your private business everyone else's business.

What do you think the right decision would have been? To go ahead and have the 4th and suffer even worst post-partem depression?

I think not.

And if what you take issue with is the number of kids she had:
1. Why not just say that?
2. What business is it of yours?

Your post is both insensitive and confusing.

What exactly are you criticizing her for?

How about....none of your business.

After 3 children in 3 or less years, she needed a break even if she didnt have post partum....any woman would.

Hopefully, those 5 years gave her time to heal mentally and emotionally.

If she didnt do an "Andrea Yates" or otherwise abuse her children, again, it's nobody's damn business.

And if YOU were so concerned for her, how many times did you visit her?
How many times did YOU offer help with babysitting those 3 kids
so she could have a break?
How many meals did you take to her home to save her from cooking?
How many times did you offer to clean her home for her or even pay for a maid service for a day?

If none of the above, then shut up.

::applause::

My younger sis is about 5 years younger than me but I have no clue if it was planned. Think there were a couple of miscarriages.

My two cents.

Who? Why do you care? Are you sure you understand? What? And finally, back the hell off.

WOW!!!

I started reading your statement and thought you were judging my ex and I. I was in the Navy and deployed when two of my children were born. Then our daughter was born five years after the previous. It seemed whenever we planned a pregnancy it wouldn’t happen. When we thought we were taking steps to prevent the pregnancy nature made a way.

Based on the OP statement I think post-partum is a very good reason to postpone another pregnancy.

My sympathies to you and the effect of Mormonism on your life.

Yes depression is a very good reason to delay childbirth.

Although my older sister is only 17 months older than me. Of course, it had to be me who had a boss.

Many people have children far apart even mormons unless they are the ones who have 13 or 16 kids (I know families that size).