Posted by:
Exminion
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Date: September 24, 2018 06:09AM
My psychiatrist would be very proud of you, Pooped. You are on the right track. He is always helping me with dealing with the narcissists and psychopaths in my life. He says I'm still stuck in that childhood model of having to be pleasing and useful, and of being overly concerned about what others think of me. That's how I was raised, as a Mormon.
I can't rebel enough to break out of that prison--I'm just too nice.
I know what you-all are saying. Mom used to tell me to be the "peace-maker" of the family. I was actually praised for taking abuse! Whenever I fought back to defend myself from my large bully of an older brother, I would be punished. My brother was too big and intimidating to punish. He would threaten to kill himself. So, I was the one who got punished for the altercations.
One thing we all need to know is that narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths NEVER "come around." At least 99% of them never change. There's nothing you can do! Also, empaths don't "attract" narcissists. That statement puts blame on the victim. Victims of psychopaths can be strong, intelligent, successful, normal people. Psychopaths are very likely to choose "worthy" victims, with lots of money to steal away, beauty to exploit, even fame to bask in.
My bully brother had a lot of influence on my nephew, who was always an entitled, arrogant jerk--but I was his nice auntie. He went on a mission, to BYU, married a greedy, grasping woman, had kids, they went on missions, he became a bishop's counselor, and stole hundreds of thousand dollars from my parents' estate, my brothers' estates, other relatives, and a family business. He got my father and uncle to invest in a software company he was starting up, which was never even registered, and no one ever saw or heard of, while my nephew traveled all over Europe, and stayed at fancy hotels, and bought a boat, and new cars, etc. He said that he was "retiring early", at 35, and never had a job after that.
It made me feel a whole lot better to sue my nephew for my rightful shares in the family estates, in three different lawsuits! Psychopaths never quit. But--most of them are really stupid. He did a whole lot of things that were blatantly illegal. I got my money back, and my sister's money for her, and nephew had to pay the legal fees, from his father's inheritance. My family would have killed us if we had reported him to the IRS. (I did report him to the County Animal Cruelty one winter, and saved the lives of his horses, who would have frozen to death that winter.) He's still at it--we have a large family and many sources of money--and they think I'm the bad guy for putting my own nephew out of my life. These Cluster B personality types know how to manipulate others, and evoke everyone's pity. They are NOT the kind of people you want to hang out with!
As a small-sized single female, my best defense is to run away, and keep my children away from known criminals. At first, I was hurt that some family members believed my nephew's lies about me. He also said my sister and I LOST all the lawsuits! I warned them, out of concern for them. Over the years, he has told so many lies, and tried so many scams, that they are on to him, now, but I can't get past the fact they didn't take my word for it.
One of two of these creeps can mess up an entire family. IMO, I think they enjoy doing so! We can't let them plow us under!