Posted by:
PollyDee
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Date: October 20, 2018 09:22AM
One thing no one here is considering is that handicapped children want to participate in activities they see their siblings and friends doing. For example, one of my older sisters (who has passed away) was mentally handicapped. She functioned at the cognitive level of a 4-6 year old. However, she always wanted to do what she saw her siblings and friends doing: primary, baptism, girls camp, young women's, dating, driving, go to the temple, go on a mission, get married.
My parents completely understood her cognitive limitations, and yet, it was heartbreaking to hear her ask, "When do I get baptized?" or "When do I get to drive?" or get a job, have a boyfriend, go to college, go to the temple, get married... My sister was intelligent enough to understand that she was often left out from participating in the life experiences she saw others have.
So, out of compassion, my parents provided opportunities for her to experience as many of those life milestones as possible. They did "let" her get baptized, knowing that she did not, nor ever would, understand the religious significance of it, nor did they ever believe that a loving God would hold her accountable to baptismal covenants.
Parents of handicapped children, and Church leaders who minister to them, aren't typically clueless to needs of these children.