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Mother Who Knows
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Date: November 29, 2018 12:59PM
Well said, everyone!
The Mormon leaders know that they would lose a great number of temple attendees (aka "tithe-payers) if they let go of the arbitrary 1-year waiting period in the US. It's all about the money.
I have a feeling that most of the tithing revenue comes from the U.S., and most of the new members are newborn babies. So, they are bleeding the American Mormons. Britain and some other countries do not legally accept a Mormon temple marriage, and that's why they let go of the 1-year waiting period for them. Not God, but government intervened.
I think it is extremely NASTY, the way the cult supports and encourages rumors about couples who choose to wait a year! This is a fact. The first, most common accusation is that the couple is probably pregnant. An innocent couple who wants to have beloved non-Mormon relatives at their wedding, is accused of being immoral, lax in their faithfulness, not "believers" in God or Christ or whatever, being hypocrites, etc. They just want to follow their hearts and include their families, which I think is noble and loving! The Mormon cult is anti love, as we know, and as stated by Nelson.
I stopped paying during those months I had to take sick leave from work, to have painful hospital treatments. I was the sole support of my family, and I also was left with copays, and such. I explained this to the bishop and others, when I quit all three of my church callings. I could not believe how nasty and unsympathetic the Mormons were! I was barely back to work, when my daughter got engaged to the Mormon next door. The bishop would not renew my temple recommend. He said I had to pay back tithing, plus full tithing for the next 8 months, until the wedding. He said it was "God's money", and that I was to pay that BEFORE I paid my doctor bills! I also was ordered to resume my callings as organist and Sunday school teacher. I was not completely recovered, but the bishop and music people didn't care. At this stage I no longer believed, and I felt that all of this was bullying.
I know of some parents who offered their engaged kids the monetary equivalent of the tithing they were ordered to pay. I did this for my daughter and her fiancee. It was a large enough amount, that it would have been a nice nest-egg for them to start their life. I was going to pay it into a bank account, instead of to the Mormon cult. They refused!
I had to go, because my daughter's father and his new wife were no longer Mormons. My other children were completely out of the cult. My daughter's fiancee's family were all too young, the "bridesmaids" hadn't been through the temple yet. My cousin was the officiator, and my widowed brother sat next to me. The rest of the group was the groom's TBM family.
After the ceremony, rushing to get dressed, in the crowded, stuffy locker room, and trying to fix her hair which had been messed-up by the headdress and heavy veil, my daughter started to cry, and she said, "This is NOT how I pictured my wedding to be."
I told her from my heart: "This is not your "wedding." You two were legally married when you signed the marriage license in the little office room. Your cousin just added a lot of extra stuff that the church wants him to say. Your REAL wedding starts when you arrive at the reception, and start celebrating with everyone. You and your new husband have planned the reception of your dreams, and all of your family and friends will be there. Your friends' band will play, people will dance, the little kids will enjoy the grounds, the bridges and ducks, the great food, the beautiful cake, your dress won't be covered up with the ugly temple garb, we'll fix your hair...." This pep-talk was for me, as well as for the bride.
My daughter and her husband have not been to the temple since--except for the weddings of his family members. Theirs is a good example of how weddings FORCE people to the temple.
In the Mormon cult, "Family" is their biggest weapon. Along with peer pressure, gossip, rumors, shunning, bullying, threatening.
I have had Mormons make comments to me, about a temple marriage being a "real marriage." My response was to look really shocked, and say, "Are you accusing non-temple couples of living in sin?"