Date: December 05, 2018 06:36PM
My sweet, beautiful TBM niece committed suicide, a few weeks before she was to graduate at BYU. She was intelligent, and graduated early from high school, and started BYU at age 17. The previous year her bishopric father divorced her mother and immediately moved in with one of the women he had been having affairs with, and had little contact with his children, after that. He was excommunicated. When the divorce was final, a year later, her RS president mother had plastic surgery and liposuction, and married the Mormon "catch" of the whole city, a wealthy doctor, who was a High Priest. Niece was lost in the shuffle, and was left wondering why she had been at BYU for 4 years, and wasn't able to find love. Whenever those relatives would say that the niece lacked faith in Mormonism, I would say, "Did you read her note?"
It was all in the note--all the female helplessness in a polygamous male-dominated cult, the angst, the lack of self-esteem, the crazy mixed-up Mormon hereafter, the MorGod and Mormon parents who do not love unconditionally.
So very, very tragic!
I was a psychology major, for a few semesters, at BYU, and went to counseling, out of curiosity, and I was lost, when my "Golden Boy" TBM boyfriend cheated on me. I left counseling, very angry. At the time, they were using the Carl Rogers technique, that was nothing but listening. "Yes. I see. Elaborate on that." I was stuck at BYU for financial reasons, and kept my studies in the fields of business and science, after that. I graduated from there, still single, and it took a year after, and every summer vacation during, to recover from the BYU experience. Maybe you would have to go there yourself, to fully understand the despair in Provo. I would never recommend BYU to anyone, even if they were offered a full-ride scholarship. It's not a healthy place.
I would suggest they use some of the gay shock-therapy equipment and wire the Tanner Building railings with that. What is BYU going to do, assign senior missionaries to a "railing guard mission"?