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Date: December 26, 2018 03:05AM
This Christmas (yesterday) I was that person everyone hates.
Christmas Eve, my children and grandchildren all go skiing together, which is our new tradition. That night, my son and his wife, who live down the street had both of their families over for dinner. We had traditional dinner of honeybaked ham, potatoes au gratin, Brussels sprouts, various appetizers, shrimp, wine, Christmas cookies, and cheesecake. There were 6 toddlers under 5, and some tweens, and mostly adults. Lots of laughter.
Christmas morning, all my adult children had their own Christmases at home. My grandchildren believe in Santa, except the oldest seems to be playing along, for fun. My entire family came over here for lunch, and to eat all the goodies that friends and neighbors had brought us--an interesting variety of food! Russian, Scandinavian, Mexican, Japanese, My children's favorite food has always been sandwiches, so that's what we have for Christmas, so no one has to cook anything, and the picky eaters can pick. We opened presents, sang Christmas songs, danced, played the piano, played with our pets, played with the toys and games.
For me, this one of the best Christmases ever! Pure joy!
My children went to their various in-laws, for dinner, Christmas night, and I visited with some single friends. We started spending part of Christmas together, back in the days when we were divorced, and our children had to go be with their dads on Christmas Day. Rather than feeling sad about being alone, we group together and watch a movie or play games. On the way home, it was snowing, and covering the trees and reflecting the lights, and our neighborhood looked like a Hallmark card. What a perfect Christmas!
In no way, was our joy influenced by the Mormon cult. We were Mormons, and my parents were Mormons, and these traditions came mainly from Europe. Mormonism did not offer any traditions of its own, so when we left the cult, we didn't lose anything.
I avoided MOrmons and Mormon functions, for the entire holiday season, as sort of an experiment. There weren't a lot of those, anyway. I never felt out-of-place because I don't have a husband. I never felt judged. I never felt excluded, or shunned. There were a lot of more upbeat, fun, and worthwhile things to do. There's a lot of good charity work to do with my family, that is much more rewarding than cleaning the church or getting dressed up to sit and be bored. That's not "charity" work, anyway.
There is lots of love in my family now, and the little kids really have a spirit of giving. They couldn't have been more charming! I love each one of them unconditionally, and that makes me happy.
My children's father abandoned us at Christmastime, and I always think about that. I thought my life was over, but our adventures continued, and life has been amazing! (No, I'm not drunk, just grateful.)
Merry Christmas from one happy heart to another! I love RFM!