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Secular Priest
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Date: April 11, 2019 08:05PM
He talked about losing his daughter 3 months ago to cancer. She was 67. He wept a bit as he talked about their daddy-daughter talk at her bedside a few days before she passed. He had tears in his eyes when he talked about missing her. I felt for him. My sister passed with cancer and my wife passed 2 years ago with ALS. So I understand the pain he must have felt.
Then Russ went to "she is doing work on the other side of the veil just like I have work to do here." Well, I am still struggling to figure out what my deceased wife would be doing on the other side. It's part of the grieving process. I was born and raised in the Church and have really found very little comfort in trying to put death and dying and the other side of the veil stuff into some kind of meaning. So I feel guilty as he has it together and I do not.
I have watched him and Wendy. He seems to have thrown his deceased wife, the mother of his kids under the bus. Maybe he and Wendy know something about the other side I do not know. Does his deceased wife know that Wendy is front and center and she was not? Is she okay with this? My wife would be horrified if I remarried and had a wife that was the center of attention like Wendy is. They should a video during one of his talks when he was in Rome. Wendy was sitting on the stand with her arm around him with her mouth to his ear. Maybe I am jealous but my wife would be horrified if that was me as a Church leader. She will always be number one in my book. If he knows something about the other side of the veil and how women view this why not tell us?
Then he goes off about the guy who would not get sealed to his wife and how he is going to get a cheap home on the other and how he is "spiritually lazy." Well, I have been attending a non Church grief support group for the last year. I have learned that everyone handles grief differently. As a doctor surely he must know this man may still be grieving. It sounded that way to me. As God's prophet, he should have had more empathy. Not told the story as the man could be listening. So I do not get it.
I am not sealed to my deceased wife. Church members keep telling me to get it done like now. Maybe I am so sinful and spiritually lazy I have not done it. She has not given me any impressions from the other side to get it done. I have had some impressions from her for other things. I am still trying to figure out how a loving Father in Heaven let someone like my beautiful wife die of ALS? All I need to do to get a temple a recommend is pay my tithing. Hey, guys, I am on a pension and still paying off the $20,000 in doctors bills. She had no insurance and had $10,000 in credit bills I did not know about. I am not bitter about this but Russ needs to understand his story lacks compassion and understanding of a grieving person. According to Russ, I guess I am going to be living alone in a tent on the other side when I cross over.
I do not think Church members who are active really have a good handle on how people grieve.
So his message was terrible to me. I wonder how many others felt the same way?