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exminion
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Date: June 14, 2019 09:10PM
Vahn421 wrote: "I suppose I dodged all the bullets because I was loud, aware and had a lot of self-respect."
I believe that, right there, is our best hope. Teach our children to not be victims. My pedophile big brother knew he would be in serious trouble, because I was a loud-mouth. I did get spankings, many times, for "causing trouble", screaming, kicking my big brother in the shins, but the spankings were preferable to being tackled, stripped, handled, and humiliated. My big brother beat me up all the time, and was never punished for it, but he never was able to rape me. I have PTSD, but I got over most of the trauma. Big brother molested other little girls, and was constantly being sued, but my parents covered-up for him. He paid money, but was never arrested, never registered as a sex offender. Of course, I kept him away from my own children, and taught them what to do, if they ever were approached by a pedophile, of any kind, or even felt a bit "creepy" around someone,
Children are taught the wrong things. For example, that all Mormons are good, and the Bishop is especially good. All adults with "authority" have rights over you, and you must obey. Never question authority. If an adult has "credentials" or a badge, don't question if it is real. Even if it's real, it can be abused. I was taught that my brother "loved" me. When he destroyed my belongings--from toys to my new Subaru--it was always an accident. I could have prevented a would-be rapist from breaking my arm, had I been wiser. He was a friend of a friend, and I mistakenly thought I could reason with him, and talk him down. I should have been taught physical defense tactics!
With the present penal system, leaky laws, threats and blame cast onto the victims, we have less of a chance to stop the assailants. Our best bet is to protect, arm and fortify the victims.
They don't teach that in Primary, or YW/YM. I don't think they teach this in the public schools in Utah. I haven't seen any "McGruff" programs here, or "safe house" signs around.
Yeah, I think of such abuse as a Mormon thing, too, because I and my children have had so many attempted assaults, all from Mormons, but my brother is the only one in my Mormon family...
...that I know about....